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Monthly Archives: June 2011

As I stated before, this blog is not about me.  It’s about us.  Moms everyday everywhere doing the same things in somewhat different orders and in  somewhat different fashions.  But it might be interesting if you knew
briefly about me.

As a child I lived in three different places:  Wappingers Falls,
New York followed by Lafayette,
Indiana and ending in Grand Rapids, Michigan.  Each of these places is distinctly different from the next and is part of who I am.

Around age seven I decided I wanted to be a writer.  I would often sit in climbing trees and characters, plots, and storylines would swirl around in my mind.

I held on to that prospect of being a writer for many years until around age fourteen.  I took an extra curricular creative writing class my freshmen year of high school.  While I enjoyed formulating poetry and creating short stories, I got lost in a frustration of grammatical rules and redundancy.  I do not regret giving up writing entirely because God obviously had other plans.  After a series of youth group retreats, mission trips, and an intense week at a Christian summer camp, I felt called to be a youth pastor.  I decided that was exactly what I wanted to do and I never looked back.

In 1995 I graduated from Grand Rapids Christian High School and went on to Calvin College.  In 1997 I transferred to Kuyper College (formally known as Reformed Bible College) where I studied youth ministry.  In the fall of 1998 during my senior year, I
met my wonderful husband Rob in the campus coffee shop.  He was starting his freshmen year.   We started dating a month later.  In 2000 I graduated and took a half time job as a youth director in a small church on the outskirts of Muskegon, Michigan.
I did a lot of odd “second jobs” to help put Rob through college and eventually seminary.   Rob and I were married in 2001 and were able to move into a cute little white house next door to the church.  I know some people romanticize
the first few years of marriage before children enter the picture.  I see it as bittersweet.  I loved my job.  I loved our community.  I loved the West Michigan lakeshore.  But I
knew God had even more in store for us.

In 2004 we said good-bye to our precious friends in Muskegon and spent a trying yet defining year in Gary, Indiana where we lived and breathed urban ministry.  At the end of that year we welcomed Hailey into the world. I started a new phase of life and became a stay at home mom.  We lived in Grand Rapids for a full year. Then God lead
us across the country to Oregon, a state we knew virtually nothing about—just that were lots of evergreen trees.

In 2007 Derek came into the world followed by Kara two years later.

So here I am.  Grateful to get to know so many of you.  I hope you will continue to join us on this journey of momhood whatever twists and turns got you here. 


I’m a Mom and…

I am a Mom and…

In 2001, MTV launched a series of shows called “True Life.”  Of course we did not have cable back then due to our beans and rice budget.  We lived in the world of network TV and basic cable for years.  True Life was something we discovered about a year ago.

In the 1990s MTV had a whole slew of shows about artists and their lives.  Reality TV programs focused on the singers and dancers we were listening to and watching.  Then something changed.

All the sudden MTV flip flopped.  A new span of shows launched that were about the VIEWERS and their LIVES. We were watching shows about people that could very well be our next door neighbors.  Topics ranged from simple things like, “I am a high school freshmen” to heartbreaking topics like “I am looking for my mother” to disturbing topics like “I’m addicted to drugs.”

In the last decade MTV and other networks like A&E and TLC have shown many reality series about everyday people. Everyone has a story whether it is about addictions, obesity, mental illness, hoarding issues, or different lifestyle choices.

Last summer I had just signed up to edit a small newsletter for moms.  I thought to myself, “What about a mom series.”  We’re all moms yet there is more to us than just being “a mom.” We all have stories, lifestyles, and unique things about us that we can share with the world. I hit facebook and started sending messages to all these moms I knew all over the country. I wrote several articles about single moms,
homeschooling moms, moms with seven children, moms who live on the other side
of the world, and more.  So on this blog, Mondays will be “Mom” Mondays.  You will get to meet everyday moms like you–each with a story.

If you have a story to share (and most of you do whether we realize it or not) please e-mail me at everyday-moms@hotmail.com  and I will include it in a future “Mom Monday.”


In September of 2005, my Hailey contentedly entered the world.  The only time I heard that child cry in agony was when she had an ear infection.  She was always in her own world of peaceful bliss. She slept through the night at eleven weeks.  We went on carefree marathon walks all over the south side of Grand Rapids, Michigan.  And speaking of marathons.  I trained for my first marathon when Hailey was eight months old and I ran it one month after her first birthday. I had hours of free time every single day.  I read books.  I scrap booked.  I went out with friends and took Hailey along.  My mother warned me I would only get one easy baby.  She was right.

Derek was born and my life as a mom changed dramatically.  After a semi rough pregnancy, my son came screaming into the world.  Derek always needed to be swaddled, held, or rocked. Putting him to bed became a tag team two person affair that left my husband and I exhausted.  I remember my husband looking at me and saying, “Hailey was an exceptionally easy baby.  This is probably normal.”

I knew he was right. I cleaned the house very little when we had Hailey.  Now there was clutter and messes everywhere.  I used to get projects accomplished during afternoon nap time.  Now nap time was short, sporadic, or gone entirely.  It was too much work to go anywhere. I found us not leaving the house for days.  I was trying to do everything one-handed as I constantly had to carry Derek everywhere.  There was one morning where I changed at least five stinky diapers—some from each child. I remember talking to my mom and saying, “I didn’t know being a stay at home mom was like this.  All I feel like I do all day is clean up messes.”  And she laughed, “Yeah and you have a college degree.”

After way too much complaining, an excessive amount of crying, and driving everyone else around me crazy, I realized something needed to change.  Going back to work was not the answer for me.  I asked myself, “How can being a stay at home mom be something I take pride in? And maybe actually have fun?”

I learned how to take pride in what God has called me to do.  You know what?  He put others moms in my life that helped me get there.  I also learned to love Derek’s sensitive personality that is so much like my own! I wanted to start a blog that is full of encouragement and stories from everyday moms like you and me.  We may fall into slumps like I did.  We may get overwhelmed.  Yet we do have a lot of fun, don’t we?  We need one another to tackle this phase of life.

Over the past year I edited a small newsletter and I met many moms who taught me about homeschooling, cooking, laundry, traveling tips, dealing with disabilities and such much more.

We all are so different and yet God has gifted us in many unique ways.  Let us join together and support one another.  This blog is not about me.  It’s about you.  It’s about us.

We are everyday moms.  God has given us gifts to share.  I hope you will enjoy opening these gifts as we continue explore the joys and trials of being a mom.



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