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Once again I am one day late again.  This is my Frugal Friday Saturday post.  The older I get, the more I realize frugal living is a team effort.

Last summer I had to buy a couch for our youth group room.  We had two recliners and a handful of folding chairs.  We needed a comfy vintage looking couch that is a must have for any youth room.  I was hoping my small effort in putting  an announcement in the bulletin would bring us a couch.  It did not.

I discovered a friend of mine at church has a thing for Craig’s List.  He and his wife have bought and sold multiple items using the website.  It became a hobby for them.  I was a little put off by Craig’s List.  I did not like checking it all the time, e-mailing strangers, and worse having to talk to them on the phone.  My friend helped me face my fears.  He kept e-mailing me about potential couches in the area until we found one.  He encouraged me to barter and get a good price.  He even picked up the couch for me.

My mom is a master thrift store shopper.  She finds all kinds of quality things.  My cousin who is a stay at home mom gave her “a challenge list” of items she was looking for.  My mom went shopping for her to find all these things.  I thought this was a fabulous idea.  Even though my mom lives over 2,000 miles away, I have asked her to look for books, clothing, or toys for my kids.  She will often ship them with “care packages” or birthday gifts.

Last year I really wanted a road bike, but I did not want to pay $1,000 for one.  Especially if I do not like biking as much I think I am going to like it.  I have a “biking” friend in my church who repairs bicycles as a side job.  He went shopping for me and found my used ”new to me” road bike I am so excited to take out this summer.  Looking for road bikes on Craig’s List and other web sites was very time-consuming.  I knew I would pay through the roof if I bought one at a bike shop.  I did not want a Wal-Mart bike either.

My point with all three examples is to find frugal friends.  If you are a stay at home mom and your time is limited, befriend those who can help you.  Many people find Craig’s List searching or thrift store shopping as a fun hobby.  They would love to help you!

I am linking this up with Life As A Mom Frugal Friday


Whether you are venturing south to balmy Florida or west to sunny southern California, a Disney vacation is a must at some point in the life of your family.  I have done both Disney parks as a child, young adult, and as a mom.  You can move faster, get more rides in, and see the afternoon parades without little children.  However, there is something magical about seeing your preschooler’s face light up when he sees Donald Duck for the first time or hear your toddler daughter giggle on the Little Mermaid Ride or hear you first grader squeal with delight on Big Thunder Mountain Railroad.

We recently returned from Disneyland.  My husband and my parents along with my three children (ages 6 1/2, 4 1/2, and 2 1/2) spent three days at Disneyland along with a few extra days exploring southern California.  On our last night in our hotel, we put together a list of tips for future Disney goers.   These are some of the things my mom, my husband, and I came up with…

Bring in your own food!  Some theme parks are sticklers for bringing in outside food and drink.  Disneyland is not.  We saved a lot of money by making sandwiches. We even took jelly packets from the breakfast buffet in our hotel.  Both parks (Disneyland & California’s Great Adventure) have locker rental.  We paid $7.00 for the day which was well worth it.

It’s not a bad idea to rent a stroller.  Stroller rentalis $15.00.  We took a fold-up umbrella style stroller from home for our two year old.  On the last day we rented an additional stroller for our four-year old.  Instead of renting a locker we carried our food bag in the stroller. The only downside with putting a four-year in a stroller (and it might be unique to our four-year old) is it gave him something else to play with.  We constantly had to tell him to sit on it properly and not push it into people.  The extra “item” to juggle did try our patience at times.

Our lodging choice:  I would highly recommend the motel we stayed in:  the Staybridge Suites in Anaheim.  We were able to take a bus to and from Disneyland.  Busses ran every 20 minutes or so until 12:30 am. You can purchase bus tickets at the bus stop or at the hotel desk.  There was a big breakfast every single morning.  Some motels that serve breakfast have cramped eating quarters.  This was not the case.  It was a large dining room and lots of high chairs for little ones.  They also serve a light supper (such as meatball subs, hot dogs, and nachos) Monday through Thursday for two hours in the evening.  We saved money on dinners by eating at the motel.  Staybridge also had free laundry and a large outdoor pool and hot tub.

Leave enough time for Disney California Adventure:  This is the park adjacent to Disneyland that was built about eleven years ago.  We found it much less crowded especially in the morning.  We had little to no wait on rides until after lunch.  There are lots of toddler/preschool friendly rides.  If we had an extra day, we probably would have spent more time here.

Scheduling Naps:  We tried to get to parks between 9:30 AM and 10 AM and our younger two were “done” by 2:30 PM.  We often left, put kids down for naps, and returned after supper.  We were able to catch some of the night shows and go on one or two more rides.  We found lines for rides are still long even after 8 PM.  There is a “night life” at Disney and many stick around until the parks close. 

Make your own autograph books:  There are Disney characters everywhere (mostly on Main Street USA) and this was a highlight for all three of our kids.  Instead of spending extra money on autograph books, my mom made some with my daughters as a little craft.  She  used a foam notebook (could find at a dollar store or craft store) and the girls put foam stickers on it.  My oldest also used it as a journal of our trip.

And last always leave room for the “unplanned.”  In 2000 my husband (who was my fiance at the time), parents, brother, and my brother’s best friend spent four days at Walt Disney World.  When all was said and done we spent a night in a motel in Atlanta, did catapult jumps off one another in the pool, and watched the Stanley Cup finals.  I remember my brother saying that was just as fun (and memorable) as the four jam-packed days at Disney.  Your kids will appreciate the times sitting around the pool, going out to eat, coloring in the motel room, and going out for breakfast.   Leave room for those moments.


We are back from a vacation to warm, sunny, palm tree lined California and were welcomed by the cold, windy, “raininess” of Oregon.  My six year old wants to move to Huntington Beach and take up surfing and I think I would be inclinded to join her.  No hint of sun in our ten forecast here at home!  The kids are pretty much wiped out.  All three took 3+ hour naps this afternoon which has not happened in two and a half years.  More blog posts coming soon including some more Disney trip tips my mom, my husband and I compiled together.  Can’t wait to share them with you.

And my meal plan this week is including lots of frozen stuff, fast food, and canned soup–we’ll be cooking again soon!!


Everyday Mom will be a on short hiatus as I will be on a Spring Break vacation.  I have some great posts lined up for the last week of March/early April.  So stay tuned.  Thanks my friends for making this blog “a great outlet” for myself and my writing friends.  More to come soon…


This is a Frugal Friday Saturday post.  I was going to finish editing this post on Thursday and post it on Friday.  We were staying in a beautiful hotel in Seattle this weekend attending a conference.  Like we have found with a lot of nice hotels, some of the small perks have a price attached to them.  Wireless Internet had a fee.  We joked about running across the street to the Super 8 and using their free Wi Fi in the lobby, but we didn’t feel right in doing that.  But no problem, better late than never!

We are departing for Disneyland next week. These are some fabulous tips that mostly came from my dear friend Christina who was at Disney three weeks ago with her kids.  I wanted to remember them and share them with you all…

1)  Take Crystal Light On the Go packs to pour into your water bottles.  This will save you from spending extra money on drinks with your meal.  You will not need to purchase bottled water or pop.  Many restaurants and pop machines in theme parks charge more on beverages than what you would pay outside of the park.  Drinking pop when you are in the hot sun will only make you thirstier anyway.

2)  Buy your own glow sticks/glow bands from the dollar store before your trip.  If you go to a laser light show or fireworks at places like Disneyland, vendors everywhere will be selling them.  And you will pay much more if you buy them in the park. And my kids are young enough that they won’t care.

3)  Buy Disney character t-shirts before your trip from department stores.  My girls are all about Disney princesses and you can find character shirts at stores like Old Navy or Kohls.  My kids each have about two to three shirts to wear for the first time on our vacation.

4)  Use restaurant gift cards for eating out.  If you get restaurant gift cards as gifts, save them for when you are on vacation.  You can also earn restaurant gifts cards if you utilize Swagbucks.

5)  Make a meal plan and take along recipes.  If you are staying in a place where you are able to cook, make a meal plan!  That way you do not over buy with groceries.  And take along easy family friendly recipes.  The beauty of traveling with multiple families is each person can take “a night” and cook a meal for everyone.  That way it still feels like vacation for the rest.

I am linking this up with Life As Mom Frugal Friday


My husband and I are faithful viewers of The Office and watch reruns on Netflix on a somewhat regular basis.  Yesterday afternoon we watched Business Trip which was from the fifth season.  Michael Scott announces he is going on a business trip to a foreign country which ends up being Winnipeg, Canada.  He takes Andy and Oscar from the office with him.  While Michael spends time with the concierge of the hotel, Andy and Oscar bond over drinks.  At the end of the episode Andy says that for years he sat twenty feet away from Oscar.  It took taking a trip all the way to Winnipeg to get to know him.

That is so true about friendships.  I know too many young moms who join a mom’s group or a Bible Study or a church full of young families.  They expect to find deep friendships by meandering through the fellowship hall after church or sitting in on a mom’s meeting.  If they don’t, they move elsewhere and start the whole process again.

When I was a youth director I longed for other youthworkers to hang out with.  I went to an advertised “youth pastor lunch” put on by a parachurch organization.  One of the first thing the coordinator said was, “You will find support at these meetings.  But you will find friendship from this.”  He passed around a contact list of all the youthworkers in the area.  He said, “These are the people you need to ask out for coffee or invite over for dinner.”  He was right.  I found support and encouragment from the meetings.  I found friendship from having breakfast with another female youth leader and planning a canoe trip for our youth groups with another youth pastor.

One of my closest friends, Beth. We became good friends through leading high school youth group together.

When we first moved to Oregon we accepted invites from people to have meals or go to events.  We had people over and I tried to plan “Girl’s Nights” with some of the other women at church.  I went to a mom’s group.  I went to Storytime at the library and talked to other moms.  My husband joked that it felt like we were dating.  Some friendships grew.  Others only scratched the surface.  Some of our closest friends we found years later after we felt more settled.

We got to know more of the young families/couples at church this fall through a camping weekend.

I know it is terrifying for some, but you have to put yourself out there.  We live in a culture where we can everything we want when we want it.  The world keeps moving faster.  Friends–good solid friendships–take time, effort, and risk.


I greatly appreciated this post from Life As A Mom about Planning For Preschool.  To preschool or not to preschool has been an issue my husband and I wrestled with for years.  I was a preschool kid.  My husband was not.  We both agree we had positive experiences.  So the ”I turned out fine” argument does not work.

The fall that my oldest turned four, I got together with two friends (who also had four-year olds with fall birthdays) and we created our own preschool co-op.  They each had a toddler and we were all pregnant with our third child.  We attended the same mom’s group.  Our preschool met once a week and we each took turns hosting.  It worked and our children thrived on the routine.

Our preschool co-op group from 2009

I also started working with my oldest child two or three days a week.  The whole idea of homeschooling intimidated me.  I had no idea where to start and was overwhelmed by curriculum choices.  Did preschoolers need to be homeschooled anyway?  She needed something.  So we read books, memorized Scripture, did math worksheets, and practiced handwriting.  It did not come naturally to me and it still doesn’t.  But we did it for several months.

Now my middle child is four.  We tried a co-op preschool, but for various reasons it has not worked as well.  Although I am still friends with my preschool co-op friends, there is less weekly contact.  We are now at different churches, different mom’s groups, and juggling other projects.  I  picked up a part-time writing job, am doing more volunteer youth ministry and striving to get involved in my now first grader’s school.  Life changed in two years as it usually does.

I feel like homeschooling is still not “me.”  I have met many moms who are passionate about it and driven by all homeschooling has to offer.  While I appreciate what they have to say, I often feel intimidated by it.

We committed to homeschooling for preschool.  My husband has understood my challenges (and my intimidation) and agreed it is something we can both share.  All the homeschooling responsibilities need not fall on myself.  I also realized there is no magic way to home school my son.  Whatever we try (and probably change and try something else), he will grow and learn.  When we do send him off to kindergarten in the fall of 2013, he will be better because of the extra time he was given at home.


Last year we hardly left the state of Oregon.  This year we are making up for it.  I was in Chicago in January for a youth ministry conference.  Rob was in Philadelphia in February to visit with some pastors.  A small group us are doing a community partnership for a week in Philly this summer.  Now March brings another conference in Seattle folllowed by a family vacation to Disneyland!  In April I am headed to my old hometown in Michigan for yet another conference (this one on news writing) and to hang out with my sister and some old friends.  So our meal plans might be missing days or be shortened.

Between trips we often have what my husband calls “Clean out the fridge and freezer” night.  Sometimes it makes for some interesting meals.  The kids do not seem to mind.

Here’s our meal plan for this week.

Monday:  Crockpot Chicken Tacos

Tuesday:  Mini Frittatas and fruit & yogurt parfaits

Wednesday:  Chicken Vegetable Soup and bread (or clean out of the fridge/freezer if there are a lot of leftovers!)

I am linking this up with Menu Plan Monday


I am so thankful for Kristin Buursma, regular contributor of Everyday Mom.  She find fabulous craft ideas to do with her kids–something that takes way more effort and motivation for myself.  These are some great ideas to do with your kids this week in celebration of St. Patricks Day.

 

If you’re looking for a simple craft to celebrate St. Patrick’s Day, give these cute leprechauns a try.  In addition to these crafts, these could be a launching point for other activities. Perhaps you can make a pot of gold out of a paper cup and yellow construction paper or have a gold scavenger hunt hiding pennies around a room. For age 5-9, check out this cute leprechaun made from a toilet paper tube, foam craft paper, pipe cleaners and some paint.  (I tried it myself simply using colored paper for the hat and arms and that worked great too.)

Full instructions available at Family Fun . For age 3-6, try this paper plate leprechaun.

  • Paint just the outer rim of a small paper plate orange. Set aside to dry. (If you aren’t ready to use paints, just try an orange marker or crayon)
  • While your paint is drying, cut out the pieces to make a construction paper hat. Let older kids practice cutting by following a line you trace.
  • Assemble the hat: glue on the black band and the yellow square.
  • When the paint on the paper plate is dry, have your child make small snips the whole way around the plate.
  • Glue the hat on your leprechaun, then add the eyes and nose and draw on his mouth.

About six years ago we moved from Michigan to the Pacific Northwest leaving many family members and close friends behind.  We knew very little about Oregon.  We never been in the state until we visited a month before we moved.  Now that we have been here six years, it IS home.  I do get asked if it is difficult to NOT live near family.

I have lived in a lot of places and I have to say Oregon is the most beautiful in so many ways!

Of course it is.  We miss out on Sunday lunches, birthday parties, even Christmas holidays. We have not spent a Thanksgiving with any family member since we moved here.  Even though I manage to see most of my siblings once a year and my parents a couple times of years, the time with them never feels like it is long enough. It goes quickly and there is always a sense of emptiness as we part.

We had such a great visit this fall when my sister and her family came all the way from Michigan to spend a long weekend with us.

On a practical and somewhat positive side, it has forced me to develop deep friendships.  I never had the kind of friends here that I had in previous places we have lived. There are times I have had to lean pretty hard on my friends.   I have had no choice but to ask a friend to care for our whole family when we were sick with a stomach bug.  We have had friends take our kids overnight so my husband and I get much needed time alone.  I have been open and transparent with trusted friends about my day to day struggles.  Some of our friends have opened their homes to us and our children have many “adopted” aunts, uncles, and grandparents.

We spent Christmas Eve with a family in our church that is like "a second family" to us.

These people God has put in our life will never replace the family we have.  But I am grateful we have them.  I honestly do not know what we would do without them.

I went to college in the same town my parents lived in.  I think I always knew in my heart I would live somewhere “different” in my adult years.  I am grateful we are here.  There is a cost, yes.  There is joy in going where God calls you.

My three children playing in our front yard.



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