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I ran my first marathon in Portland in 2006.  To be honest, I did not enjoy very much of it.  It was more challenging than I ever imagined.  In December of 2010, I ran my second marathon in Sacramento.  Someone asked me why I was doing it a marathon if I did not like it the first time around.  I said, “Because I want to try it again.  I think it could go better the second time around.”  And it did.  At the time I had a five-year old, three-year old, and one year old and I needed a weekend alone.  So a weekend in Sacramento running in the California International Marathon plus lots of alone time, reading, eating out, meeting fellow runners was a good thing.

Now I have to tell you that three times is a charm.  Running in Seattle last weekend was even better!

Warning this post is very long!  I want to share my whole experience.  For those thinking about trying a marathon, please contact me if you have any questions.  I am a high school track drop-out.  I struggled to run a full mile when I took up running in 2000.  I never believed I could do this.  But I can.  And you might love it as much I do.

We left Friday afternoon. We had to be at the Runner’s Expo no later than 7 PM so I could pick up my racing packet.  I kept reading the lines on the Final Information directions, “You must pick it up by Friday.  NO EXCEPTIONS.”  If anyone has ever lived near a big city, you recall how unpredictable traffic can be.  I recall the time it took Rob three hours to drive from Cellular Field in Chicago to my workplace in Gary, Indiana (the same amount of time it can take to drive from Chicago to Michigan on a normal day).  We could not get on the road until 11:30 AM due to morning obligations, but thankfully we only hit traffic in Tacoma and then into Seattle–it was not the prolonged stand-still never-ending kind.

Of course it was cold, pouring rain.  Does it ever NOT rain in Seattle?  I was grateful I packed rain coats for all three kids.  We had to pay ten bucks to park, but we found a spot.  After parading around the expo, we took three hungry, thirsty, and somewhat exhausted kids to our motel about ten minutes from downtown.

We stayed fairly close to the University of Washington by a massive shopping mall with fun stores we don’t have here in Salem.  But no time for shopping.  We enjoyed a family dinner at the RAM Brewery.  This was a highlight for me.  As we were eating together, coloring kid’s menus, and glancing at the Track and Field Olympic trials on the TV, I realized how much easier it is going out to eat in a sit down restaurant versus a year ago.  I recall visits to Red Robin or Applebeeswith kids constantly playing with everything on the table, crying, climbing on everything, and not wanting to sit for more than two minutes.

The youngest getting ready for bed. Can I just say how nice it is not to have to drag a Pack and Play on trips anymore!?

The two oldest watching a movie in bed.

Watching TV together in bed

After dinner it was getting close to 8 PM.  We had to get up at 5:15 AM.  Rob told me I was in charge of setting the alarms.  He said he would set six alarms.  I had to laugh because anytime we have to catch an early flight, alarms keep going off every five minutes.  I set three.

Rob was a really good sport with all the driving, dodging traffic, finding places to park, and entertaining three crazy kiddos.

It took some stern warnings and lots of shushing before the kids settled down.  Rob and I watched TV on his iPad in the motel bathroom…doesn’t get any more romantic than that.  Even though I was in bed at 10, I probably woke up every hour.  At 1:30 AM, the youngest was stirring.  She is all the over bed when she sleeps.  Plus the room was way too hot.  I put the fan on cool and managed to get a few more hours of sleep.  My mental alarm woke me up twenty minutes before the first alarm sounded.

Ready to rock and roll!

Everyone was up by 5:15 AM.  We managed to get everyone dressed in the car by 5:40 AM.  I munched on a granola bar and downed a thing of Gatorade.  Nerves were pretty intense by that point.  We did not hit traffic until we hit the I-5 off ramp.  Then we were in stand still traffic.  I think we went a mere mile in twenty minutes.  It was at that point the youngest started coughing and the gagging quickly turned into vomit.  I hate throw up in the car–there is nothing worse.  So I am grabbing baby wipes trying not to get any on me.  Running 26.2 miles smelling like vomit?  No way.  Disgusting.  Then I am freaking out to the point of tears.  What if she has a stomach bug and what if I am getting it too?  How can I run 26.2 miles if I have a stomach bug?  My stomach hurts right now.  But is it just nerves?  I tend to be a little bit of a drama queen when it comes to stomach bugs and illness.

And we’re not getting any closer to the starting line.  Roads are starting to block off.  It’s 6:20 AM.  I see droves of runners walking towards the Seattle Center.  So I jump out of the van, grab an apple, and follow them.  Rob takes the kids back to the hotel for breakfast and rest.

I get to the Seattle Center and there are thousands of people, but not a single sign directing runners.  Where in the world is the gear check?  I ask six people and the sixth person knows and says I can follow her.  We make our way all the way to the complete other side of the Seattle Center and check in our gear.  I make my way back checking the clock.  It’s 6:45 AM.  Fifteen minutes until start time.  Do I have time to go to the bathroom?  I HAVE TO go to the bathroom.  I go into one of the buildings.  The bathroom line is somewhat decent. I will take the flush toilet over the port a potty any day.  I overhear someone say it’s a wave start for the race.  You start with your group number.  If you miss your group, you just join the next one.  I’m in Group #20.  That explains why some of these people are not in a hurry even though the gun is going off in less than fifteen minutes.

I make my way to my group.  Originally I said I would finish the race around 4:15 hence why I am in this group, but I wanted to shoot for four hours.  The 4:15 pace group is right in front of me.  Do I want to try and catch up to the 4 hour group?  Stick with the 4:15 group?  Or ditch the pacers and run my own pace?  In my previous marathon, I was having a difficult time keeping up with the 4:15 group.  They were about seven minutes ahead of me.  I have trained better this around and my pace is faster.

Waiting for my group to start was probably the worst of it.  When I am nervous, I just need to talk to someone.  Anyone.  I found a group from Boise to talk to and then some American Cancer Society runners.  We waited about twenty minutes before we could start, but it felt so much longer than that.

Then we finally got to start and were running through the streets of Seattle.  I realized how eclectic the race crowd was–people in banana costumes, tutus, and brightly colored socks.  Tons of charity runners from the American Cancer Society, Leukemia/Lymphoma Society, and a group running for fallen soldiers dominated the crowds.  Bands lined the course and cheerleaders dressed in bright tie dye outfits.

By around mile five we were exiting out of the city and closer to Seward Park which was by far my favorite part of the race.  It was a beautiful park along the bay with a beach waterfront.  It was at this point I caught up to the 4:15 pacer.  A few other women were running with her. She was a petite lady with a thick Australian accent.  She was so peppy and upbeat.  I discovered most of the pace runners were stay at home moms to young children.  Most of them had run marathons before and continued the hobby like myself.  We swapped marathon stories, talked about our kids, and the places we lived. We even had a great conversation about working with middle schoolers.  Our pace leader is a middle school principal.  These ladies really carried me through most of the race.  I was grateful for them.

After the park, we were back on regular city streets and then up the ramp to the I 90 (which they close off–no way we’d run side by side with big semi trucks).  By this point I was having “the runner dilemma” of whether to stop at the bathroom or keep treading along.  I was impressed this marathon had a massive amount of port a potties along the course.  Too often there are a few and the line is long.  So I made a pit stop because there was no wait.  I managed to increase my speed again and catch up to the 4:15 crowd about  a half hour and approximately three miles later.

We were heading in the other direction now on the I 90 hitting the tunnels one by one.  We would soon take the down ramp and run by Century Link field.  It was about Mile #19.  I was running slightly ahead of the 4:15 group.  At one point I could not even see them behind me.  Once I stopped at an aid station and walked very briefly, they always passed me until I caught up.  By that point most of us were quiet focusing on the run.  One step in front of the other.  The next mile to the next and the next.  You don’t really think about anything at that point–just keep moving.  It is almost more difficult to stop and then start again than it is to keep running non-stop.

By the last mile one of the 4:15 girls took off and wished me luck.  The pace leader encouraged me through the last mile.  I told her my right knee was hurting and right thigh starting to ache, but there was no way I was stopping.  I was going to keep going.  Even up the killer hill a breath away from the finish line.  Who puts a hill by the finish line!?  We finished together side by side.  Final time?  4:11:22!  Not breaking four hours, but a personal PR.  My time in Portland was 4:38:00 and Sacramento was 4:22:00.

The crowds were so massive!

When I finished my first marathon I was angry and frustrated.  When I finished my second I was giddy and thrilled.  When I finished my third I cried!  Apparently my husband and the kids watched me finish.  There was such a massive crowd and my mind was focused on pushing forward–I did not even see them.

After being handed water, Gatorade, bagels, smoothies, chocolate milk, and a space blanket, I meandered over to gear check.  I grabbed my cell phone and celebrated with my family over the phone.  Then I had to try and find them which turned into a game of cat and mouse.  He put the kids in the van and was in bumper to bumper traffic.  I can hardly walk faster than a turtle’s pace and I am trying to figure out how to get to Denny Way.  I heard other runners on their phones saying, “I’m all turned around.  I don’t know where I am.”  It took some back and forth driving and walking, but we finally found one another.  The only thing on our agenda was getting out of the city.  Especially because the near perfect warm, sunnyish weather quickly turned into a downpour.  I am so thankful the rain came after I had already finished.

So thankful for my little cheering section

 

There were just over 3,000 marathon runners and 14,000 half marathoners.  It was a BIG event.  I was grateful and blessed I could be a part of it.  I realize I can do something not everyone can do.  I do not take it for granted.  It is a gift and opportunity God has blessed me with.

What’s next?  I am walking all this week and getting into the pool a little as my body recooperates.  Then we’ll see. Maybe some biking, weight training, and a little running again.  Maybe another marathon in the future.

No pictures of the actual race yet.  I have to surf through all the professional photos they took of us.  It is very difficult for my husband to keep tabs on the kids and take pictures at the same time.  I did see some runners taking their cameras with them on the race.  I might have to do that next time.


Those of us who have chosen to live frugally learn to live within our means.  Living simply opens your heart to those who are forced to live frugally due to crisis situations or unforseen circumstances.  Your compassion grows for the poor.

With that being said, giving is complicated.  Have you ever given food to a homeless person on the street and he turned it away because he wanted something else?  Or given money to the single mom of four who has been attending your church and complained about barely making rent.  Then you discover she purchased a new ipad and is planning a Florida vacation.  I cannot tell you the number of times I hear people make comments when they see poverty-stricken homes with satellite dishes in the backyards.

How do we respond to all this?

First of all anytime you give to anyone, it is a gift.  Period.  When you give money to someone in need, you cannot assume they are going to use the money the way you want them to.   I am not saying that you should never give a friend money or pass out food to a homeless man.  Do not give to them with strings attached.

You might want to consider giving to a rescue mission instead.  Keep in mind many of these agencies and missions have established strong relationships with those in need and understand the ins and outs of poverty.  If you are skeptical–visit a rescue mission, volunteer at one, have lunch with the director, or subscribe to their newsletter.

Second of all realize that some people struggle with money management.  Living on a budget is not something they were taught.  Debt or frivolous spending is normal.   Many rescue missions and churches are teaching people “life skills” such a balancing a checkbook, grocery shopping on a budget, cooking instead of eating out, starting small businesses, writing a resume, applying for a job etc.

Our hearts might be in the right place when it comes to giving.  We also need wisdom and integrity that we are using our resources in a positive way.

I’m linking this with Frugal Friday


I have been trying to plan a small activity my six and a half-year old to do in the afternoons while my younger two are having rest time.  The oldest is really into fairy princesses right now so this was the perfect activity.

She got this fairy garden kit for Christmas and we put it away for the spring.  You could easily make one without a kit.  All you need is a large potting bowl, potting soil, and paraphernalia for the garden.  The kit came with a fairy, ceramic mushrooms and house, and plastic flowers–things you could find in a craft store.  My daughter painted everything with regular ceramic paint.  We sprinkled glitter i.e. fairy dust on everything.

The kit also came with purple gravel to make a path for the fairy.  It is the same kind of gravel you would find in the aquarium section in a pet store.  Her kit came with magic seeds and beans.  I am not a plant expert, but I am pretty sure it is regular grass seed and bean plant seeds.

After a few days we have the makings of a fairy garden!  Just put in a sunny window and keep the potting soil moist.

The kit also came with sheet of paper to write a story about the fairy in the garden.  This was a great opportunity for my oldest to practice her handwriting and exercise her imagination.


Five days!

I am more nervous about getting to the starting line than I am running the actual thing.  When I did my first marathon in the fall of 2006 in Portland, I nearly missed the starting line.  Being too overconfident with directions and going way off track, we managed to find “an angel” in Oregon City who let us follow him all the way to downtown Portland.  I made it with very little time to spare.  Never again.  I still feel the panic when I remember sitting at that gas station.  I was wondering how I was going to explain to people including my parents and in-laws who came from out of town, “Yeah…um…I missed the race.  We got lost.”

I was nervous about the sports drink.  When I ran Portland, whatever was at the aid stations made my stomach turn.  I’m happy to see we get good old Gatorade in Seattle.  That’s what I have been training with.

Will I break four hours?  It’s a lofty goal, I know.  I would rather start out trying and slow down with the 4:15 group if I can’t keep up with the 4:00 team.

Training has gone amazingly well.  Lots of miles pounded out here in my own neighborhood, a few on the treadmill at the gym, and I managed to get some runs in while traveling to California and Michigan.  I began training right around Christmas and now it comes to a close.

I’m almost a marathoner times three.  Seattle, Rock & Roll Marathon, I’m on my way!

And by the way–I am running for a ministry called the Salem/Philly Connect.  I’m a part of a team that is traveling to inner city Philadelphia this summer.  We will be working with several urban churches and assisting them with various community development projects.  In 2013, they will be sending a team to us help our church with our summer ministries.  To learn more and/or make a donation, read our blog.  We’ve raised about $750.00 so far.


Well it’s summer here in the Pacific Northwest.  While it seems like the rest of the country is sitting poolside in eighty or ninety degree temps, we are still wearing jeans, hoodies, and dodging raindrops.   Well not everyday…this weekend was actually warm and sunny.

My husband was in St. Louis for two weeks and then we jumped right into our church campout.  Following that we battled a bout of hand, foot, and mouth disease which spread throughout our community.  The end of school came and our first grader is now officially a second grader.  We survived our first week of a summer and established a loose summer routine.

With that, it is time to organize again and meal plan.  So here is what we are eating this week!

Monday:  I am eating out with the Ladies’ at our Small Group night, the kids are eating sandwiches, and the husband is making something for himself after the kids go to bed.

Tuesday:  Tacos and the fixings

Wednesday:  Chicken Stir Fry

Thursday:  Steak on the grill and rissotto

Friday:  Dinner in Seattle (hopefully some good carbs because I am running in the Rock and Roll Marathon the next morning!)

Saturday:  Homemade Pizza

Sunday:  Dinner On Your Own

I’m linking this up with Menu Plan Monday

 


As moms, we all have natural skill areas we are passionate about such as doing crafts with our kids, baking together, or teaching.  Mine is reading.  I love to read to all three of my kids.  And I love summer reading!

I never instill a limit on how many books we check out at the library.  Today we went a little crazy and checked out twenty-four.  In the summer months we are often at the library once a week so they get returned long before their due date.Our library has an awesome summer reading program!  We started it when my oldest was twenty-one months old.  This is her seventh year.  The library plans all kinds of activities, craft events, a kid’s art show, movie afternoons, and raffle prizes. Plus a Summer Reading Store in early September where the kids can redeem their “hours” for prizes.Even my youngest is excited to participate and color in her hours.We made these clipboards to hang in our laundry room aka mud room.

I had Summer Reading guides in mind when we made them.  I am also using them for homework and ”reminder” papers. I was finding the bulletin board was getting too cluttered and the younger two like to pull papers off the fridge…and then they get lost forever. Only my oldest in school so hers gets the most use.I stole the idea from my sister.  She has two children in school and each of her children use their clipboards for homework and school papers.

I also increase my own personal reading for the summer.  My goal is to read at least ten books before school starts again.


To celebrate National Running Day today, here is my post on why I run…

I often tell people my number one reason for running is to help treat the anxiety and depression I occassionally suffer from.  The mental health boost majorly outweights the physical benefits for me.  If it was physical benefits alone, it would not motivate me enough.

In this article “Why are anxiety disorders among women on the rise?” 

Shaun Driesbach says:

 The link between exercise and improved mental health is almost irrefutable…Beyond alleviating pent-up angst, physical activity can actually teach your brain to be anxiety-resistant.  “The physical stress that working out has on the body engages a lot of the same responses that mental stress does,” says Michael Hopkins, a researcher at the Neurobiology of Learning and Memory Laboratory at Dartmouth College. “Your heart beats faster; your blood pressure goes up. Over time, exercise appears to train the body to handle those changes, so when anxiety strikes, your body says, ‘Oh, OK, this is like when we go jogging. I know how to deal with this.’

Eight years ago,  I was dealing with a stressful situation within my job.  After a frustrating phone call with someone, I put on my running shoes and ran the best three miles I had ever run.  I came home ready to tackle the situation.  I realized running could help me with my anxiety–maybe more than what medication could.

We live in a culture where it is pretty easy to numb the pain.  I am not aganist pain medication or epidurals.  Too often I have seen people self medicate with alchohol abuse, drugs, overeating, or other self destructive behaviors.

Running can be painful at times–especially when you are starting out.  There’s the side aches, leg cramps, shortness of breath, sore legs, and blisters.  But you learn to push through the pain.  You learn to “be comfortable with being a little uncomfortable.”  Not only that, your body sleeps better, you crave healthier foods, and your energy level increases.

So don’t be afraid of a little pain.  When I first started running, it was terrible.  I felt like I could hardly breathe.  I would stop after a quarter of a mile.  I even fell on the sidewalk and had bruises all over my arm.

People still ask me, “How do you do run regulary and juggle three kids?”  I can’t NOT do it.  I know what happens to my brain, my moods, and my body when I DON’T do it.  If this is a way to keep myself healthy mentally, I am going to keep doing it.



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