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Monthly Archives: August 2012

I think one of the WORST and stressful household chores is getting your kids to clean up the playroom/bedrooms.  There are times I am tempted to go in and do it all for them, but I know they will never learn that way.

Sometimes it goes well at our house.

Lately it has not gone well.

My solution?  We closed the playroom for 24 hours.  My husband even put up yellow tape yellow crepe paper.

My husband said I got the idea from the Cosby Show episode where Rudy and Vanessa get kicked out of their rooms and have to live in the basement. I actually was not thinking of that at the time, but it must have been in my subconscious.

Losing the playroom meant no playing with the best toys in the house and no use of the TV.  Once the tape was lifted, it was back to cleaning.  It worked pretty well.  I may have to implement it again, however cleaning has gone much better since.


Isn’t it funny (and maybe a little scary) when your kids verbalize something that sounds like you talking?  Sometimes I hear myself and I think, “That’s my mom!” or “I sound like my dad.”

My parents are celebrating their 44th anniversary this week!  44 years!!  I’m only 1/4 of the way there.  Of course there have been challenges and bumps along the road, but my parents have been a living example for me…and so many others.

I was thinking about some of the funny quotes I remember from each parent…

My cool looking dad in his 70′s garb holding me with Grandma sitting next to him.

From my dad:

“If you’re having fun you don’t have to do it.” i.e. if your older sister is telling you that you HAVE to play game SHE wants to play and if you would rather keep playing your game, that is OK!

“Clean it up, bub.” i.e. stop talking about things that are inappropriate.

Let’s go sports fans!”My dad would say this anytime we were leaving to go somewhere.  We really weren’t “a sports” family aside from watching the Chicago Cubs faithfully throughout the 1980′s.

“If you thought of it, someone has probably done it.” My dad would say this if we came up with a really strange story and asked him if he thought it could really happen.

“Time tweet.”  How my dad would call us for supper.

My dad always told me I am “female” him.  It’s very true.  We have similar personalities and see the world through similar lenses.  My dad has a tremendous heart for people–all people.  My friends often comment how warm and fun loving my dad is.

He was a runner and later a swimmer and still a biker…and now a walker.  Never was a marathon runner or triathlete, but  he took us swimming, biking, and occassionally running.  He took me on bike trips and taught me how to shift gears, follow traffic laws, and push myself when I was feeling tired.  This is something I am already passing down to my kids.  My oldest already loves swimming and biking with me.

My grandma (same grandma that was in the other picture) and my mom enjoying pizza with me (age thirteen) and my younger brother.

From my mom:

Well it didn’t grow legs and walk away.” She would say this anytime we could not find something.  I always pictured an object growing little legs and jumping out the window.

“Eat this and if you’re still hungry you can have more.”I say this to my kids in the exact same way my mom does!  This was my mom’s way of doing “portion control” at meals.

“I’m going to go sit in the brown chair for 15 minutes.”  This was my mom’s refuge to take a much needed break.  We are officially owners of the “brown chair.”  I have plently of brown chair moments although my fifteen minutes somehow gets closer to a half hour…or sometimes longer.

“The food’s not getting any warmer!”  This is what my mom would say if she called us to dinner and we didn’t come right away.  My mom should have just taken our chairs away and banned us from the dinner table.  Disrespectful children not coming when they’re called!

My mom was a master “couponer” before there was Internet and extreme couponing classes.  She could write a whole blog on frugal living and saving money.  My mom is an amazing seamstress.  She made all my girls’ bridesmaid dresses when I got married and has made countless Halloween costumes including ones for my own kids.  I am sorry to say I never followed either path as I am not a coupon clipper and I cannot sew anything.

My mom had the gift of hospitality.  Many people were welcomed in our house and my mom always went the extra mile.  That was a beautiful example to me as I find myself enjoying the art of hospitality and the joys of serving in the church.

Happy anniversary to my mom and dad!

My parents with me and my three kids taken last Christmas.


I never thought I would become a fan of zucchini bread and muffins until last fall when a friend gave me several large zucchini to take home.

Here is what I have made so far this season…

These are the best zucchini chocolate chip muffins!  I bake them and they are instantly gone within 24 hours. My kids love them!  I also bake a gluten-free batch and they turn out great.

Zucchini Chocolate Bread with Chocolate Chips.  Very easy to make!  My oldest daughter brought this as a birthday treat last year and the first graders ate it up.

Zucchini carrot bread.  My first time making it.  Two out of three children plus myself enjoyed it.  Great way to use some of the carrots in your garden or fridge.

Zucchini chips.  Easy to make but you need to allow yourself some time.  Slice the zucchini very, very thin.  I had to use a food processor.  I tried to prepare a batch slicing by hand and they did not turn out.  Cover parchment paper over a cookie sheet and lay slices on the paper.  Spray with cooking spray.  Sprinkle with sea salt.

Do NOT use aluminum foil.  I did this on my first attempt and it was like peeling stickers off a paper–most of the slices broke.

Bake at 225 degrees for 45 minutes.  Turn the cookie sheet around and bake an additional 30-45 minutes.

They should look like potato chips. And they taste delicious!

 


A few years ago I made a list of things I will never do.  At the very top of the list was cake decorating.  After too many disastrous, I-am-way-too-embarrassed-to-show-you-pictures birthday cakes, I threw in the towel.  But the over last year I have formed a more positive relationship with my oven.  Baking has become one of my favorite hobbies.

So when the opportunity to make a birthday cake for an end of the summer/birthday party came my way, I seized it!  This is probably the first actual cake I have ever decorated that turned out halfway decent.  This is a simple flip flop cake that would be fun for a Labor Day barbeque or little girl’s birthday party.

My cake decorating attempts have only begun.  I have not one, not two, but three kid’s birthdays this fall!  I am already getting some ideas.

BTW – You should probably never say you will not do something.  There are some things on my original list that I currently do and enjoy.


Don’t you feel like doing a happy dance when your youngest child is potty trained?  Potty training is one of the most agonizing yet rewarding (and sometimes humbling!) experience as a mom.  This is my small compilation of what I have learned over the years in potty training my three children.

1)  Choose a time when you are at your best.  Many books and websites advise you not to potty train a child at the time he or she is going through a transition such as seeing an older sibling go off to school or a baby entering the house.  You also have to pick a time when you are not going through one either.  If you suffer from seasonal affective disorder and winters are harder for you, your level of patience might be lower.  If you are going through a job change, you are struggling in your marriage, or in a financial crisis–you might want to wait and focus on the current struggle.  Your level of tolerance and patience is the catalyst that will make potty training an unpleasant or doable experience.

2)  Measure success by staying dry.  I noticed my kids were “getting it” not by how often they were going in the potty, but the length of time they were staying dry.  With my last two children, I did not even use pull ups.  I put them straight in underwear.  When they were only having one or two accidents a day, I knew they were catching on.  I did not use this method with my oldest.  Which brings me to my next point…

3)  There ares so many methods to potty training.  Ask around, read websites, and figure out what motivates your child.   If one method does not work, try something else.  Or take a couple of weeks off and try the same method again.  All three of my children were potty trained in somewhat different ways in differing amounts of time and at different ages.

4)  Pick a week when you have extra help around. I intentionally potty trained my third child when my husband was on a “staycation.”  I could focus on her while he could spend time with the other kids.  Because we had been gone for over two weeks, neither one of us had a tremendous need to leave the house.  I think potty train works the best if you can book a couple of days to stay at home as much as possible.  Which is very difficult for us extroverted moms, but we can do it!

5)  Be patient!  I think this is the best piece of advice when it comes to potty training.  We are used to being in control as moms.  We cannot control our children going potty.  We can only motivate and encourage them.


Summer is not over yet!  I still have not purchased any of my children’s school supplies or fall clothes.  I am still enjoying the lazy afternoons of lounging around in my backyard.  Here is a fun backyard summery snack called Bears on the Beach courtesy of my husband’s mom.  She has many creative kid friendly ideas and this is one of my favorites.

She helped my kids make blue flavored jello.  Then they added Teddy Grahams, brown sugar for sand, and a toothpick umbrella (you can usually find at most Dollar Stores).  One of my kids added a cherry as a beach ball.It is a fun and simple snack my kids could put together themselves.

I think it will become a summer tradition around here.


But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.  – Galatians 5:22 & 23

I learned about the fruits of the spirits in Sunday School as a child.  I sung about them when my elementary school put on the “Music Machine” musical.  I still find myself singing the song about Herbert the snail when my kids are being impatient.

My view on the fruits of spirits was always moralistic.  I need to be more loving.  I should show more kindness.  I can be pretty impatient.  When I taught about the fruit of the spirits in youth group I often asked the kids, “Which fruit do you struggle with?”

Now as an adult my view has changed somewhat.  Fruit is what we bear when we are nutured in the Holy Spirit.  We want to show love, joy, peace, patience…because we received the gift of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior. It is not just about striving to bear the fruits because we want to follow Jesus.  It is knowing we CAN and WILL bear the fruits BECAUSE we follow Jesus.

My tomatoes in my garden are currently changing from a soft green to a vibrant red.  The heat, fertilizer, and water have nurtured the soil which has helped my plants to explode in growth the last few days. Without that nourishment, I would have a sagging shriveled plant with no edible tomatoes. I cannot bear the fruit of the spirit unless I receive the nourishment of His truths and know Him personally as my Lord.

Since I became a mom, self control is probably the fruit I think about the most.  Slow to anger?  Not always.  Taking frustration out on others? Yes.  Saying words and regretting them later.  Yep.  If I love God and seek to follow Him in every thing I do, I will bear the fruit of self control.

Will I screw up?  Of course.  Daily.  There are somedays I am barely out of bed and I’m already making mistakes.

2 Corinthians 4:16 says:  Therefore we do not lose heart.  Though outwardly, we are wastying away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day.

We need daily reminders.  Constant renewal.  Repeated confessions and forgiveness.  A reminder of who I am in Christ and what that really means as a wife, a mom, and a friend.  I pray that I can bear the fruit that demonstrates His love.


This is our family pet:  a short-haired gray colored female feline named Salena.  We fostered her through our local humane society around this time three years ago. and then adopted her.  People who come to our house comment how easy-going she is–never scratches people, non-aggressive, never nips, and puts up with three very busy children who have been known to use her as a pillow.

She is strictly indoors.

This Saturday we went garage saling as a family.  We returned home and started making lunch for the kids.  I heard this constant “meowing” almost like the cat was trapped inside something.  I opened every single door, cabinet, and closet.  No cat.  The meowing continued.

“She’s in the walls!”  I declared.

So I asked my husband who we should call.  Who do you call when your cat is trapped in the walls? My husband went up in the attic and crawled over the insulation putting his hand in every crevice while I did “a google search.”  Then I remembered we had been on vacation which probably stressed the cat out.  And our yard currently looks like this…

New siding and windows.  Lots of pounding, drilling, and extra noise during the day.  It spooked her.

No success in the attic.  We can’t hear her meowing in the attic but we can hear her downstairs.  Did she slip so far she is embedded in the walls?  The thought of having to put a hole in the wall and retrieve a dead cat while dealing with the smell would probably traumatize our three children…and myself included.

I call the fire department.  The gentlemen on the phone is very sweet, but said there is not much to do.  He suggest leaving food out and says most cats who can get in strange places can find their way out.

My husband goes outside and sees Salena darting across the yard.  She is jittery and spooked and runs away.

The meowing in the house stops.

So now we’re sitting on the patio and we safely assume our cat ran away and is gone forever.  My daughter is sobbing.  I am crying too.  My husband who never had the greatest affection for the cat decides to drive around the neighborhood and look for her.

An hour later we’re sitting in the house and we all hear meowing again.  We’re happy she did not run away but irritated we can’t figure out where she is.  My husband says, “That’s it.  I’m going back in the attic.”

I go into the garage and go into the furnace closet.  The meowing is stronger.  When I yell “Salena!” and bang on the wall, it intensifies.  Then I realize the sound is not coming from the wall, or the ceiling, but the floor.

So now my husband have to wedge this little door open (I only knew it was there because the cable guy had to go under our house about a year ago) and go under our house amidst all these pipes and wires.  I was grateful I was not feeling claustrophobic.  We had to army crawl and we were filthy dirty like we had been working in a cave.

Needless to say it took a couple tries, but we got her.  She would only come to me.  Now she is safe and sound.

We still have no idea how she got in there.  Our best guess is there a little small opening from where the chords from the air conditioner go under the house.  We just got new sliding glass doors and the kids have not been great about shutting them all the way.  We think she got outside and got confused on how to get back in.

My friends at the humane society shared that if your cat is stressed from extra noises from construction, keep him/her in a confined room while the workers are present.  They recommended getting a sedative from the vet if she gets too jittery or paranoid.  Your cat will “act out of character” if she/he is stressed as we experienced firsthand.

It wasn’t the way I wanted to spend a Saturday, but I am glad it had a happy ending.

 


Vacation is absolutely wonderful, but it is great to be in a routine again.  I actually got out of bed at 6:30 AM and exercised.  Which was a good thing because everyone and their mother was out running or biking.  Our town is supposed to get hit with the high 90′s all week.  Us Pacific Northwest dwellers are not used to heat nor humidity.  Thank goodness for central air…though I would trade it in for a pool.  Here is what we are eating this week…

Monday:  Macaroni and Tuna Casserole and brown sugar glazed carrots

Tuesday:  Meatloaf (husband is trying a new recipe)

Wednesday:  Gumbo (also made by the husband–one of my favorites!)

Thursday:  Summer Chicken Stir Fry (and hopefully using some veggies from the garden if they ripen by then!)

Friday: Parents Date Night (if we get a babysitter)

Saturday:  Hot Dog over the fire pit in the backyard

Sunday:  Dinner on your own

I’m linking this with MPM


I love it when my kids come up with their own crafts!  This is an ongoing one my kids have made several times.  They create “their own city.”  They tape a bunch of 8 1/2 x 11 pieces of paper together, draw their own roads, swimming pools, lakes, buildings, and then add matchbox cars.  It has kept them occupied for hours and they take so much pride in it!

My daughter made these all on our own when her younger siblings were napping.  She used a craft boxes with different foam shapes she received as a birthday present. She made a pencil holder, bookmark, invitation and wall hanging. She used regular glue.

All of these crafts were made with household items I already had on hand.  I did not spend any money!

I’m linking this Frugal Friday.



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