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Since we were not going anywhere cool like Florida were going to have a fabulous “stay-cation” for Spring Break, I decided we would have fun filled theme days.  This was part of my Happiness Project for March.  Here’s our week in photos…

Monday:  Play Day with friends…

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Tuesday:  Craft Day…We made fairies…2-DSC08371

and an Easter craft…

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Wednesday was Treasure Hunt Day…

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I planned two…a picture one for the non-readers…and a written clue one for the oldest child…

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The weather was beautiful so I could utilize the outdoors…

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And hide one of the treasures in the tulip patch…

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Thursday was nature day.  I taught the older two how to make collages.  I think they turned out pretty cool…

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Lots of hard work finding the perfect nature pictures from magazines.  My oldest kept saying, “Mom, why do all these pictures have runners in them?”  Too many Runners World magazines laying around…

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The weather continued be warm and sunny.  We rode bikes at the park…

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Threw rocks in the river…

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And enjoyed being outside…

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Friday was “Water Day.”  I won five passes to the Kroc Center at a triathlon club meeting.  We had a great afternoon of indoor rock climbing and swimming.

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And water slides…

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On Saturday we had Family Game Night and played the board game Life  which was rather interesting.

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Some tears shed over having “athlete” as a career instead of police office and getting stuck with a mobile home versus the Victorian mansion.  Rob had so many kids he needed an extra car.

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At the conclusion of the game, my son threw his wife out of the car and said, “I’m getting rid of my girl.”

My high school teacher called the day after Spring Break “BS Monday.”  There is NO break until Memorial Day which seems like forever…and summer is a little ways off.  But thankfully we’ve had some warm sunny days here.


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I never experienced temper tantrums at their maximum capacity until Child #3 came along.  Don’t get me wrong–she’s sweet, very funny, adorable, and SMART.  I love her to pieces.  She gave me an education on tantrums.

Around this time last year when she was two and a half she would fall into a trance-like tantrum state.  I could not get her to do ANYTHING.  I put her shoes and socks on.  She pulled them off.  I put her in her car set.  She squirmed her way out.  I tried to give her a snack.  She threw it at me.

I remember reading this from the book She’s Gonna Blow by Julie Ann Barnhill

“Doctors have noted that children tend to throw temper tantrums for the following reasons:

  • They are angry or frustrated because they can’t have something they want
  •  They want to get what they want by themselves
  •  They want attention
  •  They are tired, hungry, or irritable

Now is it just me, or can most adult women be described in one or more of these ways on any given day?  How can realizing your need for grace help you extend grace to your own children? (103)

I was either the punching bag or the clingy safety zone.  I often fluctuated between feeling frustrated or suffocated.

Even though she has calmed down considerably, there are days I feel like I am on Survivor and trying to outwit, outplay, and outlast.

I will say figuring out the root on the tantrum helps.  Staying calm is necessary.  Understanding It IS a phase helps.  Children (and adults too) handle their emotions differently.  It is important they figure out positive ways to channel them.

It is totally awesome to see Spitfire #3 put energy into other things these days.  She learned to dress herself, put her shoes and socks on, and pedal a bike, learn her letters and numbers long before her older siblings mastered it.  She keeps telling me she is going to go running with me someday–I’m pretty sure she’ll outrun me.

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I was always jealous of the families who took off to Florida or Alabama EVERY Spring Break.  Well we’re a traveling family, but this Spring Break we’re staying put.  My kids are SO excited for the week when I shared with them my “theme day” idea.

I have a new respect for preschool teachers.  Planning theme days and activities for three kids for one week was time consuming.  I cannot imagine doing this everyday!  I still have to look for some craft ideas.

I may blog about some our Spring Break activities, but here is a basic map of our week.  Our plans could change based on friend’s availability.  We were going to try to connect with some friends during the week off as well.

Monday:  Play Day–go to the indoor playground (or outdoor weather depending) and play board games.

Tuesday:  Nature Day–go on a hike (weather depending), do a nature related craft, make a “God’s Creation” collage.  Maybe watch Bug’s Life?

Wednesday:  Treasure Hunt Day–apparently I am making a big treasure hunt all over the yard and church parking lot.  The oldest wants it to extend all the way to the park, but that might be pushing it.

Thursday:  Kid’s Choice Day–the kids REALLY want to go swimming.  So we will go to an indoor aquatic center.  They also LOVE going out for frozen yogurt.DSC08181

Friday:  Downtown Day–we used to go downtown every Friday when we only had one child.  The kids love to take the bus (kind of a nuisance it only runs every hour), go to the library, get bread from Great Harvest, go to Starbucks (well that would mostly me) or get pretzels at the mall.

Saturday:  Keeping it open as or right now.  Would love to take my oldest roller skating unsure if the gym that hosts roller skating nights will be open.

Sunday:  EASTER!


My parents (my dad especially) often ask me to share something funny one of my kids have said.  They live on the other side of the country so we only see them a few times a year.  I am always reminded that I need to write about what they say.  Now I don’t want this to turn into a cutesy–”look how adorable my kids are and I think you should think so too” blog.  But I do want to post more of our day to day occurrences.

Conversation with my son at breakfast about career choices:

“What do you want to be when you grow up?” – Me

“Three things.  I want to be a news reporter in the morning.  A swim instructor in the afternoon.  And a builder at night.” – Son

“Wow, three things!  When will you spend time with your wife?” – Me

“Never!” – Son

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One thing I wanted to focus on this month was speaking in the positive.  I do not want my conversations with my kids all day long to be “Don’t do that!” or “Stop it!”

Warning:  if you take on a project like this you will immediately be hit with all kinds of challenges and be tested in every which way.

The whole day of Saturday I tried this out.  It was a good day to practice as my husband was in meetings all day–I had the kids all day long and into the evening.  I did fail at times, but for the most part it was a good learning experience.  Here are three examples from each one of my kids.

My oldest was fighting in the van with the youngest as we were leaving for the oldest’s basketball game.  I told them it is difficult to concentrate on driving when there is screaming, kicking, and fighting.  I explained if they fought, I would stop the car and park in a safe place.  I informed my oldest that would mean she would miss the beginning of her basketball game, but that would be the consequence of her choice.  Thankfully it was a pleasant ride to the game.

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My son is naturally loud (gee, I wonder where he got that from) and was imitating the buzzer in the basketball game and making extra noise while we were having lunch at Subway.  I looked at him and said calmly and matter-of-fact “Use your indoor voice.”

My youngest (who is more strong willed than the other two) did not want to get off the basketball court because she wanted to play.  The team was starting to prepare for the second half.  I asked her to get off the court and she didn’t budge.  I told her she had to come sit down for the game.  She refused.  I told her I was going to count to three.  I made it to three and I walked out with her.  I told her she had a choice between sitting with me and watching the game or sitting at a table outside the gym.  She apologized and said she would sit and watch the game.

I discovered that when I speak more in the positive, I am calmer.  When I am calmer, I enjoy the kids more.  When I enjoy them more, we laugh together.  I crave my time with them.  I don’t feel like retreating.

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We need to tell our kids what specifically we want them to do.  Often I resort to “Knock it off” or “Shape up.”  Do they know what that means?  Do I even know what that means!?

We have had our share of meltdowns the past two days. Dealing with meltdowns can be tricky. We need to figure out the root of why it occurred.  Too tired?  Too close to a meal?  Upset about something that happened earlier?  Not feeling well? It is VERY hard to remain calm during meltdowns, but like I said God has given me practice the last few days.  That is the only way we can improve–through opportunities to practice.


In Gretchen Rubin’s book The Happiness Project  she puts together a monthly focus and specific goals pertaining to that month.  Everyone is going to choose different subjects to focus on.  We all different passions, priorities, responsibilities, etc.  The following are my month focuses:DSC07115

March:  My Kids: My oldest has a lot of extra days off from school in March due to Spring Break and a teacher’s conference.  It gives me the perfect opportunity to bond with my kids and appreciate my role as a mom.

April:  Health & Wellness:  Exercise, healthy eating, routines etc.

May:  My House:  I did a pretty intense “winter cleaning” project this past month, but I know come May all my efforts will be “undone” and there will be other things to tackle…things I have put off for a very long time.

June:  God:  Spiritual life and faith

July:  Mental Health:  positive thinking and learning more about anxiety and depression

August:  Marriage:  My husband’s birthday is in August so I thought this would be a perfect month to focus on him.

September:  Friends:  Now that the majority of my close friends have kids in school, the summer to fall transition is crazy.  I had many stressed out friends in September.

October:  World Missions:  I have always had a heart for mission specifically the places I visited (Eastern Europe & Indonesia).  I want my kids to learn more about missions.

November:  Community:  Over the past few years I have become more interested in community development and how specifically my family can be involved in our neighborhood and community.  God didn’t have us live here for no reason.

December:  Traditions:  I love embracing the traditions of the holidays and focusing on Advent.

January:  Pursue a Passion:  Running:  Only those who are die hard runners will understand it.  My passions have changed over the years or disappeared, but I have LOVED running since I got lost running on a county road by all these cow pastures outside of Coopersville, Michigan in April of 2001.  I did manage to find my way home and I realized I ran 5 miles!  I could run!  

February:   Art:  Last night at youth group the middle schoolers were remarking how good of a drawer I am.  I used to LOVE to draw, paint, etc.  I took extracurricular art classes in middle school.  I would love to try some different types of art with my kids and on my own.

Each month is divided into separate goals.  I will post them at the beginning of that month.  There a few personal goals I am not posting, but the vast majority I will reveal.

Here is the month of March:

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Focus:  The Kids

  1. Have a different “theme” days during the oldest child’s day off like “Craft Day,” “Nature Day,” “Fun in the Kitchen” day.
  2. Speak in the positive.  Have you never noticed how negative we moms are!?  ”Don’t do that!”  ”Stop touching that!”  ”Your room is a pit.”  We CAN speak in the positive.
  3. Focus on the role God called me to be:  As I said, I never thought I would be a full time stay-at-home mom and never for this many years.  I want to reflect more on the blessings of this calling.
  4. Smile in the morning:  My kids can be upbeat and happy in the morning and I can be…well…a grump.  I am trying to smile right after my alarm goes off…and it’s SO hard.
  5. Go roller skating:  I want to do something “vintage” with my oldest.  It helps me appreciate the joys of my own childhood and share it with her.

FYI:  I will be posting about The Happiness Project every Monday.  Please follow along.  If you find it boring, do not read my blog on Mondays.


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And now here concludes 25 days of Christmas and 25 posts of photos.  This Christmas season has truly been one I will remember dearly.  Maybe it is because my kids are getting older, I am getting much better sleep, and my mind is functioning more clearly.  :)  Or maybe it because I am wiser and understand the deeper meaning of Advent.  Or it could be because we have now lived here for six years…and it is more home than it ever has been.  We have created ongoing traditions and celebrations.  Whatever the case, I am grateful for this Christmas season and looking forward to 2013…whatever it may bring.

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It is interesting how Christmas traditions start from something last minute or random.  Something that took little planning if any.  Last year as we took out our Christmas decorations, I came across a little Christmas tea set.  I am not sure who gave it to us or where it even came from–it might have been a white elephant gift. I told my oldest she could have a friend over and I would set up a Christmas tea for them.  She had so much fun with it I decided I would do it again this year.DSC07740I set up a tea for them in front of the Christmas tree.  My middle son played “waiter” and brought them their snacks and tea apple juice.

Long before we had kids, I wanted our house to be a place of hospitality.  As a child, I remember people of all kinds from different parts of the country staying with us–old friends, extended family, an exchange student etc.  It was so good for us as kids to learn the art of hospitality from my parents.  I want the same for my own kids.  Now that my kids are getting a little older, I have loved having their friends spend time in our house.


DSC07700Some people enjoy the sounds of bird calls or a flowing stream.  Some are soothed by new age music or the white noise from a fan.  I am relaxed by the sounds of children playing–engrossed in their own “Little People World.”

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December photo project

I do not consider myself a classy photographer.  But I like pictures.  I love scrapbooks, photo gifts, and paging through old photo albums.  So I thought that taking part in the December Photo Project hosted by The View From the Prairie Box would help me savor each day during the holidays.  I figure it would help me celebrate each moment versus being swept away in the hustle and bustle and non-stop holiday commercials.

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Day #1

I took the oldest to see the Christmas Story (aka “You’ll Shoot Your Eye Out!”) on stage put on by a Christian theatre group in our town run by volunteers.  All the actors and actresses were middle and high school students.  To be honest I was expecting a mediocre performance.  It was VERY WELL DONE!  The actors and actresses were quite talented!  The sets and props were amazing.  I would totally go to one of their performances again.

I do a special outing with each of my children during the holidays as a “mommy/child” date.  This was my first with the oldest.  A great afternoon together!



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