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Since we were not going anywhere cool like Florida were going to have a fabulous “stay-cation” for Spring Break, I decided we would have fun filled theme days.  This was part of my Happiness Project for March.  Here’s our week in photos…

Monday:  Play Day with friends…

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Tuesday:  Craft Day…We made fairies…2-DSC08371

and an Easter craft…

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Wednesday was Treasure Hunt Day…

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I planned two…a picture one for the non-readers…and a written clue one for the oldest child…

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The weather was beautiful so I could utilize the outdoors…

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And hide one of the treasures in the tulip patch…

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Thursday was nature day.  I taught the older two how to make collages.  I think they turned out pretty cool…

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Lots of hard work finding the perfect nature pictures from magazines.  My oldest kept saying, “Mom, why do all these pictures have runners in them?”  Too many Runners World magazines laying around…

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The weather continued be warm and sunny.  We rode bikes at the park…

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Threw rocks in the river…

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And enjoyed being outside…

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Friday was “Water Day.”  I won five passes to the Kroc Center at a triathlon club meeting.  We had a great afternoon of indoor rock climbing and swimming.

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And water slides…

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On Saturday we had Family Game Night and played the board game Life  which was rather interesting.

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Some tears shed over having “athlete” as a career instead of police office and getting stuck with a mobile home versus the Victorian mansion.  Rob had so many kids he needed an extra car.

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At the conclusion of the game, my son threw his wife out of the car and said, “I’m getting rid of my girl.”

My high school teacher called the day after Spring Break “BS Monday.”  There is NO break until Memorial Day which seems like forever…and summer is a little ways off.  But thankfully we’ve had some warm sunny days here.


It has been a great month and I daresay I have been more happier than normal.  I do not know if it is a result of my project or the randomness of life.

I managed to complete everything on my March list of focusing on the kids except for taking my daughter roller skating. Our one and only roller rink (which is actually a basketball court) is only available Friday nights and our weekends have been very full.  I have not forgotten about it and shooting for April.

We are currently in the middle of Spring Break theme days.  We kicked it off with playing Play Dough with friends. 4-DSC08369

One of the phrases from my guidelines for living that has stuck with me the most is:  ”Act the way you want to feel.”  I know it cannot apply to everything especially crisis situations.  But day to day events–it certainly can.  Do I want to play a board game with my kids?  Why yes I do (even though my first reaction used to be–”No I’d rather surf Facebook).

Why is it hard to spend time with our kids?  Should we not get excited about it?  I think our minds gravitate to the things that need to be done (like housework). Or we want to tune out and “get away” (like get on Facebook). Or we have gotten into a bad rut of not spending time with them that we almost forget how to play with them.

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As my husband said tonight (in regards of playing the board game LIFE tomorrow night which I don’t really care for but said I would play)–”This is important.  This is what you will remember.  This is what they will remember.”  He’s right.  I remember my dad taking me on a long morning bike ride to Mc Donalds for pancakes and playing Chutes and Ladders with me.  I remember my mom taking me to Saturday matinee movies and reading me library books before bed.

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Our kids need us.  We need time with them too.  Your facebook status can wait.


Potty training is not so bad.  What frustrates me is Potty Training Part 2 as in #2.  No, I am not talking about my second child.  I could write an entire blog post on the challenges of getting your child to poop in the potty versus anywhere else–probably a whole blog series–maybe a small manual on it.  By the end of it I would still throw in the towel and declare that my methods don’t work.  They all get it eventually…some in a longer series of trial and error, bribing with candy and lego sets than others.


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This was the most recent cleaning project I did President’s Day weekend.  The family room.  I HAVE to sort toys at least once a month–sometimes twice.  But I OFTEN wait until it’s too late.  I put about half of these toys in the attic and will rotate them next month.

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Loved it how the cat posed among the mess.  It was 2-3 day project. I had to buy some plastic shoe box sized containers for toys I wanted to store in the attic. Toys in the family room are typically stored in the blue and orange IKEA bins so the kids have easier access (and I don’t have to mess with lids).

I had to put a whole bunch of puzzle and game pieces in their original boxes. We also sorted through a plastic bin with drawers that used to be for Barbies and Strawberry Shortcake.  We found anything and everything in it.

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Thankfully it has been MUCH easier to keep clean.  I think the main reason is the reduction of toys and the rule “you may not take a game or puzzle out until you put the one that is currently out away.”  Away = box is closed, lid on securely and it’s on the shelf.  The kids are starting to do this without being told.  I had six kids playing in here on Thursday afternoon and it didn’t stress me out at all!


I have always been more arts than crafts.  Any craft that does not have many instructions and greatly opens the door to creativity is my kind of craft.

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This is a really simple “art” I did with the preschool kids.  Take a pie pan, cut a piece of paper in a circular shape so it fits the pan.  Dip a marble in paint (preferable washable poster paint).  Have the kids roll the marble around thus creating a very cool radial design.

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We did an “ocean day” and I wanted the kids to make fish.  It seems like fifty percent of all preschool crafts involve a paper plate.  That’s OK–they are cheap.

DSC08172I pre-cut a triangle out of the plate and taped it to the back to make a tail.  I cut construction paper and tissue paper into squares.  The kids glued the colored sheets on long with “a wiggly eye.”  Any craft that involved glue sticks and little pieces of paper seems to be the activity of choice for my three year old.

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There you go!  Simple crafts with items you probably  have in your house.


My parents (my dad especially) often ask me to share something funny one of my kids have said.  They live on the other side of the country so we only see them a few times a year.  I am always reminded that I need to write about what they say.  Now I don’t want this to turn into a cutesy–”look how adorable my kids are and I think you should think so too” blog.  But I do want to post more of our day to day occurrences.

Conversation with my son at breakfast about career choices:

“What do you want to be when you grow up?” – Me

“Three things.  I want to be a news reporter in the morning.  A swim instructor in the afternoon.  And a builder at night.” – Son

“Wow, three things!  When will you spend time with your wife?” – Me

“Never!” – Son

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One thing I wanted to focus on this month was speaking in the positive.  I do not want my conversations with my kids all day long to be “Don’t do that!” or “Stop it!”

Warning:  if you take on a project like this you will immediately be hit with all kinds of challenges and be tested in every which way.

The whole day of Saturday I tried this out.  It was a good day to practice as my husband was in meetings all day–I had the kids all day long and into the evening.  I did fail at times, but for the most part it was a good learning experience.  Here are three examples from each one of my kids.

My oldest was fighting in the van with the youngest as we were leaving for the oldest’s basketball game.  I told them it is difficult to concentrate on driving when there is screaming, kicking, and fighting.  I explained if they fought, I would stop the car and park in a safe place.  I informed my oldest that would mean she would miss the beginning of her basketball game, but that would be the consequence of her choice.  Thankfully it was a pleasant ride to the game.

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My son is naturally loud (gee, I wonder where he got that from) and was imitating the buzzer in the basketball game and making extra noise while we were having lunch at Subway.  I looked at him and said calmly and matter-of-fact “Use your indoor voice.”

My youngest (who is more strong willed than the other two) did not want to get off the basketball court because she wanted to play.  The team was starting to prepare for the second half.  I asked her to get off the court and she didn’t budge.  I told her she had to come sit down for the game.  She refused.  I told her I was going to count to three.  I made it to three and I walked out with her.  I told her she had a choice between sitting with me and watching the game or sitting at a table outside the gym.  She apologized and said she would sit and watch the game.

I discovered that when I speak more in the positive, I am calmer.  When I am calmer, I enjoy the kids more.  When I enjoy them more, we laugh together.  I crave my time with them.  I don’t feel like retreating.

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We need to tell our kids what specifically we want them to do.  Often I resort to “Knock it off” or “Shape up.”  Do they know what that means?  Do I even know what that means!?

We have had our share of meltdowns the past two days. Dealing with meltdowns can be tricky. We need to figure out the root of why it occurred.  Too tired?  Too close to a meal?  Upset about something that happened earlier?  Not feeling well? It is VERY hard to remain calm during meltdowns, but like I said God has given me practice the last few days.  That is the only way we can improve–through opportunities to practice.


In Gretchen Rubin’s book The Happiness Project  she puts together a monthly focus and specific goals pertaining to that month.  Everyone is going to choose different subjects to focus on.  We all different passions, priorities, responsibilities, etc.  The following are my month focuses:DSC07115

March:  My Kids: My oldest has a lot of extra days off from school in March due to Spring Break and a teacher’s conference.  It gives me the perfect opportunity to bond with my kids and appreciate my role as a mom.

April:  Health & Wellness:  Exercise, healthy eating, routines etc.

May:  My House:  I did a pretty intense “winter cleaning” project this past month, but I know come May all my efforts will be “undone” and there will be other things to tackle…things I have put off for a very long time.

June:  God:  Spiritual life and faith

July:  Mental Health:  positive thinking and learning more about anxiety and depression

August:  Marriage:  My husband’s birthday is in August so I thought this would be a perfect month to focus on him.

September:  Friends:  Now that the majority of my close friends have kids in school, the summer to fall transition is crazy.  I had many stressed out friends in September.

October:  World Missions:  I have always had a heart for mission specifically the places I visited (Eastern Europe & Indonesia).  I want my kids to learn more about missions.

November:  Community:  Over the past few years I have become more interested in community development and how specifically my family can be involved in our neighborhood and community.  God didn’t have us live here for no reason.

December:  Traditions:  I love embracing the traditions of the holidays and focusing on Advent.

January:  Pursue a Passion:  Running:  Only those who are die hard runners will understand it.  My passions have changed over the years or disappeared, but I have LOVED running since I got lost running on a county road by all these cow pastures outside of Coopersville, Michigan in April of 2001.  I did manage to find my way home and I realized I ran 5 miles!  I could run!  

February:   Art:  Last night at youth group the middle schoolers were remarking how good of a drawer I am.  I used to LOVE to draw, paint, etc.  I took extracurricular art classes in middle school.  I would love to try some different types of art with my kids and on my own.

Each month is divided into separate goals.  I will post them at the beginning of that month.  There a few personal goals I am not posting, but the vast majority I will reveal.

Here is the month of March:

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Focus:  The Kids

  1. Have a different “theme” days during the oldest child’s day off like “Craft Day,” “Nature Day,” “Fun in the Kitchen” day.
  2. Speak in the positive.  Have you never noticed how negative we moms are!?  ”Don’t do that!”  ”Stop touching that!”  ”Your room is a pit.”  We CAN speak in the positive.
  3. Focus on the role God called me to be:  As I said, I never thought I would be a full time stay-at-home mom and never for this many years.  I want to reflect more on the blessings of this calling.
  4. Smile in the morning:  My kids can be upbeat and happy in the morning and I can be…well…a grump.  I am trying to smile right after my alarm goes off…and it’s SO hard.
  5. Go roller skating:  I want to do something “vintage” with my oldest.  It helps me appreciate the joys of my own childhood and share it with her.

FYI:  I will be posting about The Happiness Project every Monday.  Please follow along.  If you find it boring, do not read my blog on Mondays.


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Since we moved to Oregon we rarely spend Christmas Eve with extended family. It is not possible with the distance and the need for my husband to be close to home at Christmas with his worship leading responsibilities.  For the first time in a long time, I am OK with that.  We have been blessed to have wonderful friends here we can share holidays with.

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We are thankful for this season of life when we have dear friends working their way through the toddler/preschool/early education years alongside us.  Who we can laugh with, cry with, and celebrate with.

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We are grateful to not just fellowship together but also to spur one another on in our spiritual journeys.  As we seek to be men and women of faith and godly parents to our little ones.


DSC07862The first Christmas we have all three kids in the church Christmas program.  What a blessing to see our little ones leading in worship during this blessed Advent season.



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