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In the winter of 2011 when I put my oldest in swim lessons for the first time, I realized I desperately wanted to do a triathlon.  I had run two marathons at that point and several shorter races.

I wanted to try something different.

There were several problems.  Number one I could hardly swim.  If you threw me in the deep end of the pool, I could tread water or float on my back and do a sloppy freestyle. I did not know the breathing patters or proper form.

Number two I only owned the mountain bike I received for my thirteenth birthday–and it was in very bad shape.

I thought I would tackle the bike problem first.  I felt like the little child who prays to God to give her a brand new bike.  I shopped for bikes on Craig’s List and put money aside, but I had no idea what I was looking for.  Then I discovered  my friend Jim was starting a biking business.  He knew way more about road bikes.  I asked him to shop around for me and gave him a price range.

In the winter of 2012 he found my bike!  He did extensive work and rebuilt parts of it.  I have always loved the color orange and was thrilled my bike was orange!

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The previous owner also turned in her biking shoes and helmet so I was able to acquire those too.  I had no idea biking shoes existed and that you could actually clip into the pedals.  This is something I am currently practicing…and not  quite ready to tackle the road in clips.

I knew nothing about bike maintenance at that point.  I did not even know how to pump up my tires.  I did not even own a pump.  Which became a problem.  I got my first pinched flat this fall because I was riding on tires that were too low.  After some instruction from Jim, buying a pump from him, and watching a bunch of You Tube videos, I am learning to fix flats, put chains back on, and pump up my tires with hopes to learn even more.

This previous fall I took swim lessons.  I was in good shape and had endurance from running and biking.  Once I got the form down, I could swim!  I am still a slower swimmer and it is probably my weakest of the swim, bike and run combination.  Recently I decided to swim with triathletes one morning a week and this has helped.

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So this past Saturday morning I accomplished my goal and did my first ever sprint triathlon!  My final time:  1:39.50.

Checking into a triathlon is quite different than a running race.  There is gear to set up, numbers for the bike helmet and bike, body markings and figuring out your swim lane.  I felt a bit disorganized, but was grateful for the gracious volunteers at the registration booth.

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There was sprinkly rain when I checked in but was assured it was not going to rain hard during the race.  The volunteers were right.  I felt a slight sprinkle of rain during the biking portion, but nothing major.

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The people in my swim lane were awesome.  We all went about the same pace.  If you want to pass someone you tap their foot.  I was passed by both of my lane buddies the first lap, but then I passed one of them later on.  The buoyancy made me dizzy at points.  I am not used to swimming with so many people in the pool.  However, I felt better and increased my speed halfway through.

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I kept my spandex pants and shoes in the locker room.  I changed into them right after the swim.  I didn’t realize that counted towards my swim time.  If I had to do it all over again, I would have left them by my bike outside.  There were many people wearing flip flops or sandals into the pool.  It did not cross my mind at all to bring those.  A friend once told me to practice the transitions.  It is a big part of the race.  Good advice!  Next time…

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The husband did not get any pictures of the bike portion because he was enjoying a nice breakfast with the kids at Mc Donalds…which was along the bike course.  I did not see him when I biked past.

The run portion was my best.  It is completely different running after you have swam and biked.  My abs and chest was sore.  I had side stitch at the beginning, but not bad enough that I had to stop.

I was thrilled that my run time was only about 1 minute and a half more than my regular 5K time.

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I was thrilled to have all three of my kids there.  They all high fived me when I cross the finish line

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They are my own little “triathlon” kids as my oldest loves to swim!  She has loved the water since she was a baby.  The second child spends hours on his bike.  I am not sure about third but she was running laps around the park last week yelling, “Mommy, look at me run!”

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I always say my medals partially belong to my husband.  Running, swimming, biking–exercise in general is not possible without cooperation and teamwork with him.  Tri training and running is important to me so it’s important to him.  Just like his karate (he earned his brown belt in March) is something I have tried to always encourage him in.

What is next?  Open water tri?  Maybe.  I did just buy a wet suit!


So I realized I have not blogged in several weeks.  I did not throw my happiness project out the window…quite the opposite in fact.  Those precious moments of blogging have been taken over by everything else.  In April I focused on health and wellness.  Here are the goals I did not blog about yet.

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I wanted to attend an exercise class I never attend like step aerobics or zumba.  The problem I ran into is that these classes are offered at times that conflict with our families schedule.  I have the cheapest gym plan that does not allow me to use the gym on Mondays and Tuesdays unless I pay $7.00 each time.  I also do not use the child care.  I also guard our family’s dinner time.  So this leaves me early morning (which is when I usually go) or later in the evening.  The classes I normally go to (power lifting and cycling) are offered during these times, but the others ones are not.

However, since I joined a triathlon club in March (and I will be doing my first triathlon a week from Saturday!)  I have gone to track workouts and a swimming group.  A little intimidating as they run and swim much quicker than I do.  I went to the track workout back in mid March and it was frustrating being one lap, sometimes two behind the crew.  I made myself go at least once in April.  This morning I went again and did not worry about lagging behind.  I did the same workout as everyone else at MY pace and I loved it.

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I’ve been very successful in getting up early.  I love the quietness of the morning and “the alone time.”  It is hard for me to get up early when I do not have an exercise class to go to, but I will always be a work-in-progress.  Naturally I am a night owl, but it does not fit my lifestyle anymore.

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I still struggle to log into My Fitness Pal.  It would be much easier if I had a smart phone or iPad.  My weight has not changed in several months so I know I am eating well.  I struggle with whether it is worth it to count every single calorie if I not seeking to lose a lot of weight.  However, it does hold me accountable.


Since we were not going anywhere cool like Florida were going to have a fabulous “stay-cation” for Spring Break, I decided we would have fun filled theme days.  This was part of my Happiness Project for March.  Here’s our week in photos…

Monday:  Play Day with friends…

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Tuesday:  Craft Day…We made fairies…2-DSC08371

and an Easter craft…

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Wednesday was Treasure Hunt Day…

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I planned two…a picture one for the non-readers…and a written clue one for the oldest child…

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The weather was beautiful so I could utilize the outdoors…

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And hide one of the treasures in the tulip patch…

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Thursday was nature day.  I taught the older two how to make collages.  I think they turned out pretty cool…

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Lots of hard work finding the perfect nature pictures from magazines.  My oldest kept saying, “Mom, why do all these pictures have runners in them?”  Too many Runners World magazines laying around…

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The weather continued be warm and sunny.  We rode bikes at the park…

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Threw rocks in the river…

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And enjoyed being outside…

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Friday was “Water Day.”  I won five passes to the Kroc Center at a triathlon club meeting.  We had a great afternoon of indoor rock climbing and swimming.

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And water slides…

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On Saturday we had Family Game Night and played the board game Life  which was rather interesting.

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Some tears shed over having “athlete” as a career instead of police office and getting stuck with a mobile home versus the Victorian mansion.  Rob had so many kids he needed an extra car.

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At the conclusion of the game, my son threw his wife out of the car and said, “I’m getting rid of my girl.”

My high school teacher called the day after Spring Break “BS Monday.”  There is NO break until Memorial Day which seems like forever…and summer is a little ways off.  But thankfully we’ve had some warm sunny days here.


My children are training for the Awesome 3000 which is the one of the largest kid’s races in our town.  The first year my daughter ran it, I put her through hard core training.  I realized that was not totally necessary for a five and a half year old.

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We do run laps around the parking lot or run through the trails in the park.  We also have fun with running games.  This is one we recently tried…

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Fill a bowl or plate with a snack your children like.  I used Teddy Grahams, but you could do crackers, chocolate chips, cereal etc.

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The kids start at one end of the parking lot.  Yell, “On your marks, get set, go!”  They run to the plate, grab one Teddy Graham, run back and put it in a plastic cup.  They go back and forth until all the Teddy Grahams have been moved from the plate to the plastic cup.

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I varied the number of Teddy Grahams by their ages.  The oldest can run longer than the youngest obviously.

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And a good warm-up or cool down is doing stretching or circuits.  Again make it fun so they enjoy it.  You could even play catchy music.

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We have three trees in our yard.  By one tree, they had to stretch and touch their toes.  By another tree they had to jog in place.  By the third three they did jumping  jacks.

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When I yelled “Switch” they ran as fast as they could do the next tree.

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If exercise is not fun, kids (and adults too!) are not going to want to do it.  So many people think running is boring, but it does not have to be with a little bit of creativity.


If you are a “regular” on Pinterest, then you probably have seen the Resurrection Garden.

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The husband’s parents were visiting this weekend and his mom did this project with the kids.  It is a great Easter craft and super easy!

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She used a large round pot for plants.  The kids filled it with potting soil and added grass seed.  The “tomb” is a small pot turned on its side with a large rock in front.  Little white pebbles were placed in the front of the tomb.  The kids made crossed from twigs in the yard tied around with string (twine would work too).  Maybe we will have green grass sprouting up by Easter!


It has been a great month and I daresay I have been more happier than normal.  I do not know if it is a result of my project or the randomness of life.

I managed to complete everything on my March list of focusing on the kids except for taking my daughter roller skating. Our one and only roller rink (which is actually a basketball court) is only available Friday nights and our weekends have been very full.  I have not forgotten about it and shooting for April.

We are currently in the middle of Spring Break theme days.  We kicked it off with playing Play Dough with friends. 4-DSC08369

One of the phrases from my guidelines for living that has stuck with me the most is:  ”Act the way you want to feel.”  I know it cannot apply to everything especially crisis situations.  But day to day events–it certainly can.  Do I want to play a board game with my kids?  Why yes I do (even though my first reaction used to be–”No I’d rather surf Facebook).

Why is it hard to spend time with our kids?  Should we not get excited about it?  I think our minds gravitate to the things that need to be done (like housework). Or we want to tune out and “get away” (like get on Facebook). Or we have gotten into a bad rut of not spending time with them that we almost forget how to play with them.

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As my husband said tonight (in regards of playing the board game LIFE tomorrow night which I don’t really care for but said I would play)–”This is important.  This is what you will remember.  This is what they will remember.”  He’s right.  I remember my dad taking me on a long morning bike ride to Mc Donalds for pancakes and playing Chutes and Ladders with me.  I remember my mom taking me to Saturday matinee movies and reading me library books before bed.

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Our kids need us.  We need time with them too.  Your facebook status can wait.


Some people make a New Years resolution to lose weight.  My husband’s resolution was to make a new dessert every week.  I told him since he was taking the time to try brand new recipes and take pictures of every single one (and I still laugh when my nephew said–”Why do you have all these pictures of food on your computer?) he really ought to create a blog.

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So Weekend Dessert is officially launched.  You will find some gourmet delicious desserts on it.  I have always been a hot fudge sundae type person.  My husband has helped me expand my horizons.

 


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I was always jealous of the families who took off to Florida or Alabama EVERY Spring Break.  Well we’re a traveling family, but this Spring Break we’re staying put.  My kids are SO excited for the week when I shared with them my “theme day” idea.

I have a new respect for preschool teachers.  Planning theme days and activities for three kids for one week was time consuming.  I cannot imagine doing this everyday!  I still have to look for some craft ideas.

I may blog about some our Spring Break activities, but here is a basic map of our week.  Our plans could change based on friend’s availability.  We were going to try to connect with some friends during the week off as well.

Monday:  Play Day–go to the indoor playground (or outdoor weather depending) and play board games.

Tuesday:  Nature Day–go on a hike (weather depending), do a nature related craft, make a “God’s Creation” collage.  Maybe watch Bug’s Life?

Wednesday:  Treasure Hunt Day–apparently I am making a big treasure hunt all over the yard and church parking lot.  The oldest wants it to extend all the way to the park, but that might be pushing it.

Thursday:  Kid’s Choice Day–the kids REALLY want to go swimming.  So we will go to an indoor aquatic center.  They also LOVE going out for frozen yogurt.DSC08181

Friday:  Downtown Day–we used to go downtown every Friday when we only had one child.  The kids love to take the bus (kind of a nuisance it only runs every hour), go to the library, get bread from Great Harvest, go to Starbucks (well that would mostly me) or get pretzels at the mall.

Saturday:  Keeping it open as or right now.  Would love to take my oldest roller skating unsure if the gym that hosts roller skating nights will be open.

Sunday:  EASTER!


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This was the most recent cleaning project I did President’s Day weekend.  The family room.  I HAVE to sort toys at least once a month–sometimes twice.  But I OFTEN wait until it’s too late.  I put about half of these toys in the attic and will rotate them next month.

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Loved it how the cat posed among the mess.  It was 2-3 day project. I had to buy some plastic shoe box sized containers for toys I wanted to store in the attic. Toys in the family room are typically stored in the blue and orange IKEA bins so the kids have easier access (and I don’t have to mess with lids).

I had to put a whole bunch of puzzle and game pieces in their original boxes. We also sorted through a plastic bin with drawers that used to be for Barbies and Strawberry Shortcake.  We found anything and everything in it.

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Thankfully it has been MUCH easier to keep clean.  I think the main reason is the reduction of toys and the rule “you may not take a game or puzzle out until you put the one that is currently out away.”  Away = box is closed, lid on securely and it’s on the shelf.  The kids are starting to do this without being told.  I had six kids playing in here on Thursday afternoon and it didn’t stress me out at all!


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One thing I wanted to focus on this month was speaking in the positive.  I do not want my conversations with my kids all day long to be “Don’t do that!” or “Stop it!”

Warning:  if you take on a project like this you will immediately be hit with all kinds of challenges and be tested in every which way.

The whole day of Saturday I tried this out.  It was a good day to practice as my husband was in meetings all day–I had the kids all day long and into the evening.  I did fail at times, but for the most part it was a good learning experience.  Here are three examples from each one of my kids.

My oldest was fighting in the van with the youngest as we were leaving for the oldest’s basketball game.  I told them it is difficult to concentrate on driving when there is screaming, kicking, and fighting.  I explained if they fought, I would stop the car and park in a safe place.  I informed my oldest that would mean she would miss the beginning of her basketball game, but that would be the consequence of her choice.  Thankfully it was a pleasant ride to the game.

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My son is naturally loud (gee, I wonder where he got that from) and was imitating the buzzer in the basketball game and making extra noise while we were having lunch at Subway.  I looked at him and said calmly and matter-of-fact “Use your indoor voice.”

My youngest (who is more strong willed than the other two) did not want to get off the basketball court because she wanted to play.  The team was starting to prepare for the second half.  I asked her to get off the court and she didn’t budge.  I told her she had to come sit down for the game.  She refused.  I told her I was going to count to three.  I made it to three and I walked out with her.  I told her she had a choice between sitting with me and watching the game or sitting at a table outside the gym.  She apologized and said she would sit and watch the game.

I discovered that when I speak more in the positive, I am calmer.  When I am calmer, I enjoy the kids more.  When I enjoy them more, we laugh together.  I crave my time with them.  I don’t feel like retreating.

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We need to tell our kids what specifically we want them to do.  Often I resort to “Knock it off” or “Shape up.”  Do they know what that means?  Do I even know what that means!?

We have had our share of meltdowns the past two days. Dealing with meltdowns can be tricky. We need to figure out the root of why it occurred.  Too tired?  Too close to a meal?  Upset about something that happened earlier?  Not feeling well? It is VERY hard to remain calm during meltdowns, but like I said God has given me practice the last few days.  That is the only way we can improve–through opportunities to practice.



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