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Since we were not going anywhere cool like Florida were going to have a fabulous “stay-cation” for Spring Break, I decided we would have fun filled theme days.  This was part of my Happiness Project for March.  Here’s our week in photos…

Monday:  Play Day with friends…

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Tuesday:  Craft Day…We made fairies…2-DSC08371

and an Easter craft…

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Wednesday was Treasure Hunt Day…

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I planned two…a picture one for the non-readers…and a written clue one for the oldest child…

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The weather was beautiful so I could utilize the outdoors…

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And hide one of the treasures in the tulip patch…

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Thursday was nature day.  I taught the older two how to make collages.  I think they turned out pretty cool…

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Lots of hard work finding the perfect nature pictures from magazines.  My oldest kept saying, “Mom, why do all these pictures have runners in them?”  Too many Runners World magazines laying around…

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The weather continued be warm and sunny.  We rode bikes at the park…

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Threw rocks in the river…

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And enjoyed being outside…

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Friday was “Water Day.”  I won five passes to the Kroc Center at a triathlon club meeting.  We had a great afternoon of indoor rock climbing and swimming.

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And water slides…

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On Saturday we had Family Game Night and played the board game Life  which was rather interesting.

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Some tears shed over having “athlete” as a career instead of police office and getting stuck with a mobile home versus the Victorian mansion.  Rob had so many kids he needed an extra car.

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At the conclusion of the game, my son threw his wife out of the car and said, “I’m getting rid of my girl.”

My high school teacher called the day after Spring Break “BS Monday.”  There is NO break until Memorial Day which seems like forever…and summer is a little ways off.  But thankfully we’ve had some warm sunny days here.


In Gretchen Rubin’s book The Happiness Project  she puts together a monthly focus and specific goals pertaining to that month.  Everyone is going to choose different subjects to focus on.  We all different passions, priorities, responsibilities, etc.  The following are my month focuses:DSC07115

March:  My Kids: My oldest has a lot of extra days off from school in March due to Spring Break and a teacher’s conference.  It gives me the perfect opportunity to bond with my kids and appreciate my role as a mom.

April:  Health & Wellness:  Exercise, healthy eating, routines etc.

May:  My House:  I did a pretty intense “winter cleaning” project this past month, but I know come May all my efforts will be “undone” and there will be other things to tackle…things I have put off for a very long time.

June:  God:  Spiritual life and faith

July:  Mental Health:  positive thinking and learning more about anxiety and depression

August:  Marriage:  My husband’s birthday is in August so I thought this would be a perfect month to focus on him.

September:  Friends:  Now that the majority of my close friends have kids in school, the summer to fall transition is crazy.  I had many stressed out friends in September.

October:  World Missions:  I have always had a heart for mission specifically the places I visited (Eastern Europe & Indonesia).  I want my kids to learn more about missions.

November:  Community:  Over the past few years I have become more interested in community development and how specifically my family can be involved in our neighborhood and community.  God didn’t have us live here for no reason.

December:  Traditions:  I love embracing the traditions of the holidays and focusing on Advent.

January:  Pursue a Passion:  Running:  Only those who are die hard runners will understand it.  My passions have changed over the years or disappeared, but I have LOVED running since I got lost running on a county road by all these cow pastures outside of Coopersville, Michigan in April of 2001.  I did manage to find my way home and I realized I ran 5 miles!  I could run!  

February:   Art:  Last night at youth group the middle schoolers were remarking how good of a drawer I am.  I used to LOVE to draw, paint, etc.  I took extracurricular art classes in middle school.  I would love to try some different types of art with my kids and on my own.

Each month is divided into separate goals.  I will post them at the beginning of that month.  There a few personal goals I am not posting, but the vast majority I will reveal.

Here is the month of March:

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Focus:  The Kids

  1. Have a different “theme” days during the oldest child’s day off like “Craft Day,” “Nature Day,” “Fun in the Kitchen” day.
  2. Speak in the positive.  Have you never noticed how negative we moms are!?  ”Don’t do that!”  ”Stop touching that!”  ”Your room is a pit.”  We CAN speak in the positive.
  3. Focus on the role God called me to be:  As I said, I never thought I would be a full time stay-at-home mom and never for this many years.  I want to reflect more on the blessings of this calling.
  4. Smile in the morning:  My kids can be upbeat and happy in the morning and I can be…well…a grump.  I am trying to smile right after my alarm goes off…and it’s SO hard.
  5. Go roller skating:  I want to do something “vintage” with my oldest.  It helps me appreciate the joys of my own childhood and share it with her.

FYI:  I will be posting about The Happiness Project every Monday.  Please follow along.  If you find it boring, do not read my blog on Mondays.


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I am embarking on my personal happiness project in March.  March is my personal New Years Day as my birthday is at the beginning of the month.  Before I share with you more about my project here is an explanation of my guidelines for living...

1) Love God & love others - When I entered youth ministry at the tender age of 23 with no money and little experience…but ready to take on the world…my senior pastor (and to this day one of my role models) said that my work can simply be summed as this:  Love the Lord your God with all your heart and love kids.  All I need to be is a simple clay vessel ready to be filled with His treasure.  Which is why you will always see 2 Corinthians 4:7 at the end of my e-mails.

2) Seek the Lord in all things.  Cast your cares on him in the small decisions like how I should spend my birthday money, the medium sized decisions such as where I should send my children to school, and the giant decisions such as when should I go back to work and what should I be doing.

3) Be myself.  I am a big picture, somewhat creative, dreamer who is extroverted, needs “outside” time and often sings too loud (and off key).  That is me.  I am not going to try be someone I am not.

4) Listen, listen, listen!  Talking comes much more naturally to me.  I talk through my issues while my husband thinks through everything.  Being in a formal or informal group of people where someone is constantly talking, interrupting, or always bringing the conversation back to them is…well…annoying…and sometimes sabotages a group.  I try to listen to my husband, my kids, my friends, my extended family–I am and will probably always be a work-in-progress.

5) Act the way I want to feel:  You really CAN choose the way you want you to feel.  Although sadness, despair, and wallowing has its time and place, you are not destined to stay in a slump forever.

6) Follow through:  Follow a task from start to finish.  There is ALWAYS interruptions, but pick up where you left off.

7) Do the work that needs to be done:  I would much rather surf facebook for 45 minutes that put the breakfast dishes away and wipe down counters.  Keep priorities in the right order.

8)  Say what you need:  Don’t beat around the bush.  If I need help, I need to ask for it.

9)  Accept and move on:  There are people (sometimes mean) and situations (sometimes crummy) I have absolutely no control over.  Acceptance breeds contentment.

10) Tone it down:  I am a loud person and I come from a noisy family.  I tend to overreact and create drama.  Some of this part of who I am, but I have learned to turn the volume (and the drama) down over the years.

11) Think it about:  If I do not have to make a split second decision, it’s not a bad thing to process it for awhile and consider all sides of the coin.

12) It’s not about you:  One of my husband’s catch phrases I have made my own.  You should not have to try hard to impress people or find your allies.  Instead ask how you can reach out to others.


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Every year my husband challenges me to read more books than him.  And every single year he reads way more.  However, the amount of books I read each year increases.  Typically I gravitate to non-fiction and memoirs. I tried to read some fiction.  It helped tremendously being in a Book Club.  So here’s what I read this year…and I separated the fiction and non-fiction.

Fiction:

1) Black Beauty by Ann Sewell

2) Peace Like a River by Leif Enger

3) The Wind Up Girl by Paolo Bacigalupi

4)  The Piano Tuner by Daniel Mason

5)  Change of Heart by Jodi Picoult

6) Twilight by Stephanie Meyer

7)  Gideon’s War by Howard Gordon

8)  New Moon by Stephanie Meyer

9)  In Leah’s Wake by Terri Guiliano Long

10) The Mermaid Chair by Sue Monk Kidd

11)  The Firm by John Grisham

Non-Fiction & Memoirs

1)  Toxic Charity by Robert D Lupton

2)  Whatever It Takes:  Geoffrey Canada’s Quest to Change Harlem and America by Paul Tough

3)  Foster Parenting:  A Simple Guide to Understanding What It’s All About by Stacie Craig

4)  She’s Gonna Blow!  Real Help for Moms Dealing With Anger by Julie Ann Barnhill

5)  Silence Shattered: An Eyewitness Account of the Columbine Tragedy by Heidi Johnson

6)  When Helping Hurts by Steve Corbett and Brian Fikkert

7)  Off Balance by Dominque Moceanu

8)  Chalked Up by Jennifer Sey

9)  Bloom by Kelle Hampton

10)  Becoming Sister Wives by the Browns

11)  More than Just Race by William Julius Wilson

12)  The Savage My Kinsman by Elisabeth Elliot

13)  In the Water They Can’t See You Cry by Amanda Beard

14)  Escape by Carolyn Jessop

15)  Having  a Mary Heart In a Marth World by Joanna Weaver

16)  The Fruitful Wife:  Cultivating a Love Only God Can Produce by Hayley Di Marco

And these are the movies I watched.  I realize I do not watch very many flicks.  Honestly an evening when I can devote 2-3 hours to watching a movie uninterrupted, I would prefer to curl up and watch a documentary. Before you call me a geek, my husband and I did work our way through all eight seasons of 24  over a six month period as well as all eight seasons of The Office.  Currently we are watching Glee  wrapping up Season 1.

Movies

1)  The Lottery (2010)

2)  The Bad News Bears (1976)

3)  Charlotte’s Web (2006)

4) One Day (2011)

5) Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone (2001)

6) Shag (1989)

7) Little Miss Sunshine (2006)

8) Akeelah and the Bee (2006)

9) Run For Your Life (2008)

10) Life of David Gale  (2003)


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Since we moved to Oregon we rarely spend Christmas Eve with extended family. It is not possible with the distance and the need for my husband to be close to home at Christmas with his worship leading responsibilities.  For the first time in a long time, I am OK with that.  We have been blessed to have wonderful friends here we can share holidays with.

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We are thankful for this season of life when we have dear friends working their way through the toddler/preschool/early education years alongside us.  Who we can laugh with, cry with, and celebrate with.

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We are grateful to not just fellowship together but also to spur one another on in our spiritual journeys.  As we seek to be men and women of faith and godly parents to our little ones.


DSC07835This cat loves this time of year because she gets to play with lots of wrap, tissue paper, and string.DSC07838


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When the weather outside is frightful  and the fire heat in the house is so delightful…

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My friend Trisha did a presenation at our mom’s group last year about homemade gifts and making your own wrapping paper.  I never made my own wrap and never realized how fun it is!  I bought a roll of brown packaging paper at the dollar store and used Christmas stamps, stencils, mini-clothes pins, jute string, old Christmas cards, and even photos.  Now I am not going to use homemade wrap for every single present, but I did do quite a few especially for friends and teachers.


Last year I made a clothesline display for my Christmas cards for the first time ever.  I made it right over the fire place.  The problem was 1) you can’t put thumb tacks in the fireplace  2) using duct tape the hold up the clothes line looks really ugly and 3) Christmas wrapping ribbon is not very durable.

So here’s the 2012 Christmas card clothes display…DSC07814 It’s not over the fireplace but the ledge that separates the kitchen from the eating area.  I like this wall (we see it all the time when we’re eating dinner) and may have to put some fun decorations up there after the holidays are over.

DSC07813And I used I jute string which is very inexpensive.  I got a whole roll at JoAnn Fabrics for less than $5.00.  It is more durable and so far has held up thumb tacks.  You can use the jute string for other things like giving your presents a more “rustic” look or tying to tags.  I am having a lot of fun with it.


A windy storm and a blowing evergreen tree upset the cable box outside which means we lost Internet again.  Comcast man to the rescue this afternoon.  I am a little behind of posting photos.

Yesterday was the third Sunday of Advent.  Rob preached from Romans 12 which is one of my favorite passages in the Bible.  Some of the words that have been floating through my brain this Advent season are “brokenness” and “restoration.”  Rob preached about how this pertains to our human relationships.

In their youth, some people try to achieve perfection in sports, art, or music.  For me it was friendship.

I have seen some friendships in my life rot for various reasons.  We all have. While some people are able to pick themselves up, walk away, and never look back–it’s much more difficult for me to do.  I replay the “what ifs” over in my head.  I consider seeking reconciliation even though I already tried.  I go back forth between blaming myself and longing for revenge.

Jesus Christ is the ultimate friend.  He took the blame, bore the shame, and ended up dying for people on the cross who looked the other way.  I will never be that.  I will never attain that perfection.  I long for Christ to return to make all things new bringing hope and reconciliation to the brokenness that intertwines us as uprooted friends.

I strive to practice hospitality and gentleness to the people who have closed the door on me or that I have shut the door on.  I am the first to admit I made mistakes.  I think I have learned more about forgiveness in my 30′s than in any period of life.  You can’t have a marriage, healthy friendships, positive relationships with your own kids and the kids you help without forgiveness.

As Rob was preaching I looked at this picture my oldest was drawing.  A group of people–every single has a giant grin on their face–ice skating, sledding, making snowballs, and sipping hot chocolate.  Beautiful.  Harmony.  Isn’t that we all long for?  Come, Lord Jesus.DSC07811

 


DSC07797Every Christmas my daughter’s school sings at the Oregon State Capital in the rotunda along with many other choirs and bands.  We always enjoy hearing all the Christmas songs they worked very hard practicing (and sometimes singing along).

DSC07788My daughter is on the far left–the third child up.  They sang alone as a school and then joined another Lutheran school from Portland.DSC07800It is a long time for little siblings to sit and listen to the choirs.  But they did good.



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